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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 367452" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>This kind of thing makes my blood boil!!!! Brings me right back to elem school where I was waaaaayyy smarter than my teachers. I had MANY accusations of cheating - even from teachers who watched me do an assignment sitting at a desk speaking to no one and looking at nothing. There rationale was that no kid could write the way I did. That was IT. I told them that if it was going in my file then they had to tell my mother. She and my dad had a rep as being supportive of teachers if we messed up but ripping them apart if they abused us. (One teacher physically abused my bro and it started from that incident where my dad almost got his license revoked.) Not surprisingly, in my case no one said anything about it again.</p><p></p><p>I think that giving difficult child an assignment that he is passionate about and having him write it in front of her is problem the ONLY way she will admit she is wrong. Unless the school forces her to do so, which they should. I cannot fathom ANYONE who has regular dealings with you and your family who would EVER think you would allow cheating. </p><p></p><p>I would DEMAND that she show you PROOF that he cheated. Keep the post that you wrote handy so you remember things as clearly as possible. Tell the principal that if the teacher cannot show you concrete proof that difficult child and you cheated then she must formally apologize and put it in his file that she was wrong. Not having handwritten drafts is NOT proof of anything. If need be, get affadavits or even notarized letters from family members that you have NEVER cheated or permitted cheating on any school assignment. If someone was around when difficult child was working then have them say that they saw him working unaided. Get the speech path to send a letter saying that the quality of his work is absolutely in line with his abilities on subjects he is passionate about, as he was with this one.</p><p></p><p>Also point out that if you HAD cheated then the factual errors would NOT have been in the paper. Those who know you will know that is true!</p><p></p><p>This woman is a moron, a person who tells people what to do. She is NOT a teacher, because a real teacher doesn't make unfounded accusations. If she has been thinking you are a cheat for some time, demand PROOF of EVERY instance of cheating. The quality of difficult child's work is NOT proof of cheating. That is plain stupid and is the worst example of a total lack of logic being used to substantiate some claim. </p><p></p><p>I am so sorry. It hurts and infuriates to have someone question your honor and integrity. It is even worse when they question your honor and integrity with regard to your children. </p><p></p><p>Maybe if difficult child is very passionate about her accusations he can write an assignment about unfair accusations of cheating being based solely on a student using accommodations for handicaps such as not having handwritten drafts because the student has dysgraphia and several language processing problems. I bet he would do an awesome job of defending himself!</p><p></p><p>It really does seem, at least to me, that her sole basis for the accusation is the fact that he used a computer and he worked hard and did a better job than she expected. I guess she thinks she is a lousy teacher. Otherwise she would think that her teaching helped him significantly to become a better writer and student. No one should have that little confidence in their abilities.</p><p></p><p>{{{{{hugs}}}}} to you and difficult child and husband (who I am sure is also upset by this). Be sure you rest as much as you need to, in spite of this accusation. Don't let it sap your strength. Have you considered telling her you left him alone to write this because you have been undergoing cancer treatment and simply haven't the energy to help him cheat? That YOUR work would be of a lower standard because you are tired out from the medical treatments? It might be interesting for you to give the woman a sample of YOUR writing to show how different you and difficult child are in your writing, word usage, sentence structure, etc.... I am willing to bet that any DECENT teacher would easily see fundamental differences between your work and difficult children. Just a thought.</p><p></p><p>Remember how Calvin handles accusations. He and Hobbes admit nothing, deny everything and demand proof! (Calvin is usually culpable and you are not, but his strategy is still one to think about!)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 367452, member: 1233"] This kind of thing makes my blood boil!!!! Brings me right back to elem school where I was waaaaayyy smarter than my teachers. I had MANY accusations of cheating - even from teachers who watched me do an assignment sitting at a desk speaking to no one and looking at nothing. There rationale was that no kid could write the way I did. That was IT. I told them that if it was going in my file then they had to tell my mother. She and my dad had a rep as being supportive of teachers if we messed up but ripping them apart if they abused us. (One teacher physically abused my bro and it started from that incident where my dad almost got his license revoked.) Not surprisingly, in my case no one said anything about it again. I think that giving difficult child an assignment that he is passionate about and having him write it in front of her is problem the ONLY way she will admit she is wrong. Unless the school forces her to do so, which they should. I cannot fathom ANYONE who has regular dealings with you and your family who would EVER think you would allow cheating. I would DEMAND that she show you PROOF that he cheated. Keep the post that you wrote handy so you remember things as clearly as possible. Tell the principal that if the teacher cannot show you concrete proof that difficult child and you cheated then she must formally apologize and put it in his file that she was wrong. Not having handwritten drafts is NOT proof of anything. If need be, get affadavits or even notarized letters from family members that you have NEVER cheated or permitted cheating on any school assignment. If someone was around when difficult child was working then have them say that they saw him working unaided. Get the speech path to send a letter saying that the quality of his work is absolutely in line with his abilities on subjects he is passionate about, as he was with this one. Also point out that if you HAD cheated then the factual errors would NOT have been in the paper. Those who know you will know that is true! This woman is a moron, a person who tells people what to do. She is NOT a teacher, because a real teacher doesn't make unfounded accusations. If she has been thinking you are a cheat for some time, demand PROOF of EVERY instance of cheating. The quality of difficult child's work is NOT proof of cheating. That is plain stupid and is the worst example of a total lack of logic being used to substantiate some claim. I am so sorry. It hurts and infuriates to have someone question your honor and integrity. It is even worse when they question your honor and integrity with regard to your children. Maybe if difficult child is very passionate about her accusations he can write an assignment about unfair accusations of cheating being based solely on a student using accommodations for handicaps such as not having handwritten drafts because the student has dysgraphia and several language processing problems. I bet he would do an awesome job of defending himself! It really does seem, at least to me, that her sole basis for the accusation is the fact that he used a computer and he worked hard and did a better job than she expected. I guess she thinks she is a lousy teacher. Otherwise she would think that her teaching helped him significantly to become a better writer and student. No one should have that little confidence in their abilities. {{{{{hugs}}}}} to you and difficult child and husband (who I am sure is also upset by this). Be sure you rest as much as you need to, in spite of this accusation. Don't let it sap your strength. Have you considered telling her you left him alone to write this because you have been undergoing cancer treatment and simply haven't the energy to help him cheat? That YOUR work would be of a lower standard because you are tired out from the medical treatments? It might be interesting for you to give the woman a sample of YOUR writing to show how different you and difficult child are in your writing, word usage, sentence structure, etc.... I am willing to bet that any DECENT teacher would easily see fundamental differences between your work and difficult children. Just a thought. Remember how Calvin handles accusations. He and Hobbes admit nothing, deny everything and demand proof! (Calvin is usually culpable and you are not, but his strategy is still one to think about!) [/QUOTE]
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