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<blockquote data-quote="Farmwife" data-source="post: 367472" data-attributes="member: 8617"><p>I said "punch her in her face" as a joke, it is from another thread here a week or two ago and I thought some regulars might recall the conversation. I wouldn't actually suggest that in sincerity. My goodness...</p><p> </p><p>It was my sarcastic way of venting with marg. Though I see a growing issue of students cheating and online courses being a great place for that it doesn't excuse what this teacher did. She didn't just accuse a student which may be appropriate. She did two very bad things.</p><p> </p><p>1. She assumed her teaching experience was the authority on this particular childs unique presentation of his disorder. Though she may be a teaching expert she obviously has less than half a clue about how this disabled boy (is it okay to say disabled?) approaches projects, his learning style or his unique needs. By throwing accusations around carelessly she could ultimately damage a young man who already struggles because her ego tells her she must be right.</p><p> </p><p>2. Accusing a child of possibly cheating, possibly as in "needs further investigation" is a long way away from being judge and jury. To top it off accusing a student of cheating is one thing, accusing a parent of aiding in the cheating steps into a whole new realm of impropriety. So when I say things like "punch her in the face" I mean no offense to teachers in general whom I respect for undepaid overworking. I simply would expect that if someone has such a nasty thing to say they better be ready for the <u>figurative</u> gloves to come off.</p><p> </p><p> </p><p>While I understand that todays average student is more apt to cheat and it drives a good teacher batty I am on the other side of the spectrum. I am a former student who was unjustly accused of cheating on may occasions which I of course did not. In my case I also faced severe consequences, public shame and was additionally forced to start courses over again behind the "average" students to make up for my wrong doing.</p><p> </p><p>I was also in my first year of middle school. This b.s. lasted two years until I came in the 97th percentile on national testing and they wanted to put me in advanced courses in high school. By holding me back I was not ready for the AP class level academically and I was mad. I told them where to stuff their classes. Up until the witch hunt I had plans to go to Annapolis the naval academy. This was before women had been allowed in. I not only wanted to go to one of the best institutions in the country I also wanted to be "that woman" the one who changed things...I chose that path when I was 12. Had a map planned out of how to volunteer for a congressman to get an appointment etc. etc. (I was already trying to build my resume in 7th grade, okay?)</p><p> </p><p>I had been quiet and perfectly behaved until that point. i had also been on honor roll. In the next year after the fall out of the false accusations I began getting into serious trouble in school for being defiant and having an issue with authority. I openly challenged teachers which it appears later in high school they enjoyed the "fire"...odd. I officially became a difficult child and developed a life long distaste for authority. In the following years I destroyed my academic career and any chance of going to a good university. </p><p> </p><p>Now, as an adult I realize I am responsible for my choices and actions. It took me years of growth to come to that conclusion. It still doesn't erase the stain and life long loss of potential that a bad teacher, then set of teachers chose for me when I wasn't allowed a voice. I was a good student from a broken home who could have been anybody.</p><p> </p><p>Now I am a college drop out who still hates people in authority and probably always will. I recently tried to look up that teacher who got the ball rolling to ruin me when I was the ripe age of 12. I wanted to send him a thank you letter, thought he should know just how much of an impact he had on my life. Wanted him to know what his career amounted to.</p><p> </p><p>The punch in the face comment may have been out of place but it was as polite as I could muster on short notice.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Farmwife, post: 367472, member: 8617"] I said "punch her in her face" as a joke, it is from another thread here a week or two ago and I thought some regulars might recall the conversation. I wouldn't actually suggest that in sincerity. My goodness... It was my sarcastic way of venting with marg. Though I see a growing issue of students cheating and online courses being a great place for that it doesn't excuse what this teacher did. She didn't just accuse a student which may be appropriate. She did two very bad things. 1. She assumed her teaching experience was the authority on this particular childs unique presentation of his disorder. Though she may be a teaching expert she obviously has less than half a clue about how this disabled boy (is it okay to say disabled?) approaches projects, his learning style or his unique needs. By throwing accusations around carelessly she could ultimately damage a young man who already struggles because her ego tells her she must be right. 2. Accusing a child of possibly cheating, possibly as in "needs further investigation" is a long way away from being judge and jury. To top it off accusing a student of cheating is one thing, accusing a parent of aiding in the cheating steps into a whole new realm of impropriety. So when I say things like "punch her in the face" I mean no offense to teachers in general whom I respect for undepaid overworking. I simply would expect that if someone has such a nasty thing to say they better be ready for the [U]figurative[/U] gloves to come off. While I understand that todays average student is more apt to cheat and it drives a good teacher batty I am on the other side of the spectrum. I am a former student who was unjustly accused of cheating on may occasions which I of course did not. In my case I also faced severe consequences, public shame and was additionally forced to start courses over again behind the "average" students to make up for my wrong doing. I was also in my first year of middle school. This b.s. lasted two years until I came in the 97th percentile on national testing and they wanted to put me in advanced courses in high school. By holding me back I was not ready for the AP class level academically and I was mad. I told them where to stuff their classes. Up until the witch hunt I had plans to go to Annapolis the naval academy. This was before women had been allowed in. I not only wanted to go to one of the best institutions in the country I also wanted to be "that woman" the one who changed things...I chose that path when I was 12. Had a map planned out of how to volunteer for a congressman to get an appointment etc. etc. (I was already trying to build my resume in 7th grade, okay?) I had been quiet and perfectly behaved until that point. i had also been on honor roll. In the next year after the fall out of the false accusations I began getting into serious trouble in school for being defiant and having an issue with authority. I openly challenged teachers which it appears later in high school they enjoyed the "fire"...odd. I officially became a difficult child and developed a life long distaste for authority. In the following years I destroyed my academic career and any chance of going to a good university. Now, as an adult I realize I am responsible for my choices and actions. It took me years of growth to come to that conclusion. It still doesn't erase the stain and life long loss of potential that a bad teacher, then set of teachers chose for me when I wasn't allowed a voice. I was a good student from a broken home who could have been anybody. Now I am a college drop out who still hates people in authority and probably always will. I recently tried to look up that teacher who got the ball rolling to ruin me when I was the ripe age of 12. I wanted to send him a thank you letter, thought he should know just how much of an impact he had on my life. Wanted him to know what his career amounted to. The punch in the face comment may have been out of place but it was as polite as I could muster on short notice. [/QUOTE]
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