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Nasty letter from father...where my difficult child is living now
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<blockquote data-quote="Sabine" data-source="post: 620066" data-attributes="member: 17639"><p>We need to work on how you're perceiving the <difficult child, Grandfather, and you> dynamic.</p><p></p><p>Imagine the three of you are standing by a deep pit.</p><p></p><p>Your Dad has clearly been shoving you into the pit for years. You've managed to climb back up out of it, and as you've been working on those climbing muscles, it's getting easier and easier. Via "return to sender", you'll be able to prevent him from ever shoving you in again.</p><p></p><p>Your siblings were shoved in years ago, and haven't climbed out at all..hard to say if they ever will.</p><p></p><p>You have NOT thrown your difficult child into the pit..</p><p>Your son is currently hugging your father up on top. The more you try to lure difficult child away, the harder he'll cling. It's best to let them hold onto each other as long as they want, and <strong>when</strong> (not "if") Grandpa shoves difficult child into the pit, you can be there with a rope to help him out.</p><p></p><p>You can dangle that rope, but you can't force difficult child to grab it. He could end up staying down there with your siblings, and that will be his choice. But whatever you do, DO NOT climb down into that pit! </p><p></p><p>I'm glad you are enjoying the snow, it IS beautiful!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sabine, post: 620066, member: 17639"] We need to work on how you're perceiving the <difficult child, Grandfather, and you> dynamic. Imagine the three of you are standing by a deep pit. Your Dad has clearly been shoving you into the pit for years. You've managed to climb back up out of it, and as you've been working on those climbing muscles, it's getting easier and easier. Via "return to sender", you'll be able to prevent him from ever shoving you in again. Your siblings were shoved in years ago, and haven't climbed out at all..hard to say if they ever will. You have NOT thrown your difficult child into the pit.. Your son is currently hugging your father up on top. The more you try to lure difficult child away, the harder he'll cling. It's best to let them hold onto each other as long as they want, and [B]when[/B] (not "if") Grandpa shoves difficult child into the pit, you can be there with a rope to help him out. You can dangle that rope, but you can't force difficult child to grab it. He could end up staying down there with your siblings, and that will be his choice. But whatever you do, DO NOT climb down into that pit! I'm glad you are enjoying the snow, it IS beautiful! [/QUOTE]
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