Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Navigating the roller coaster with difficult child son and impending grandbaby
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 649333" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>For them ~ and I am assuming she is obviously pregnant ~ to show up where you work with their hands out and tears in their eyes was calculated to shame you into taking responsibility. A cold, chillingly manipulative move.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I feel really badly for you, for your grandparenting introduction to have happened in this way. I felt the same way when it happened to me. </p><p>That whole crummy reality of losing a child to the streets and then, the living nightmare of learning there would be a baby. </p><p></p><p>My first grandchild.</p><p></p><p>I am big into naming, not only what we did get, but also all the wonderful things we will never, ever have from our difficult child kids.</p><p></p><p>Simple things, like being respected enough to have actually met our child's mate prior to a pregnancy. Or, like being listened to and cherished enough that we could actually veto an inappropriate mate for our child. Or the joy it must be to anticipate a grandchild coming, and then, to learn of a pregnancy, and then, to hold the cherished, well cared for grandchild.</p><p></p><p>That never happened for me, of course. </p><p></p><p>But I am being cynical.</p><p></p><p>I was horrified that my daughter was pregnant, at all. That she was pregnant by the person who impregnated her made me want to vomit. </p><p></p><p>I mean that.</p><p></p><p>I never was able to consider the baby she was pregnant with, if you know what I mean. But then, the baby was born...and oh, man, we fell so in love with her. I have wished, in the rest of my life, that I had known how I was going to come to love that little girl. </p><p></p><p>It really had nothing much to do with my daughter.</p><p></p><p>The relationship you will have with your grandchild will have very little to do with your son.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes.</p><p></p><p>Reserve your feelings for the innocent party in all this. Yourself, and your grandchild.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>If she was working until December, there should be another job by now, and there should be money, by now.</p><p></p><p>I agree with MWM on this one.</p><p></p><p>Big, big red flag.</p><p></p><p>Good for you for speaking from the hip.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I love this.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 649333, member: 17461"] For them ~ and I am assuming she is obviously pregnant ~ to show up where you work with their hands out and tears in their eyes was calculated to shame you into taking responsibility. A cold, chillingly manipulative move. I feel really badly for you, for your grandparenting introduction to have happened in this way. I felt the same way when it happened to me. That whole crummy reality of losing a child to the streets and then, the living nightmare of learning there would be a baby. My first grandchild. I am big into naming, not only what we did get, but also all the wonderful things we will never, ever have from our difficult child kids. Simple things, like being respected enough to have actually met our child's mate prior to a pregnancy. Or, like being listened to and cherished enough that we could actually veto an inappropriate mate for our child. Or the joy it must be to anticipate a grandchild coming, and then, to learn of a pregnancy, and then, to hold the cherished, well cared for grandchild. That never happened for me, of course. But I am being cynical. I was horrified that my daughter was pregnant, at all. That she was pregnant by the person who impregnated her made me want to vomit. I mean that. I never was able to consider the baby she was pregnant with, if you know what I mean. But then, the baby was born...and oh, man, we fell so in love with her. I have wished, in the rest of my life, that I had known how I was going to come to love that little girl. It really had nothing much to do with my daughter. The relationship you will have with your grandchild will have very little to do with your son. Yes. Reserve your feelings for the innocent party in all this. Yourself, and your grandchild. If she was working until December, there should be another job by now, and there should be money, by now. I agree with MWM on this one. Big, big red flag. Good for you for speaking from the hip. I love this. Cedar [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Navigating the roller coaster with difficult child son and impending grandbaby
Top