hearts and roses
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PC23...
Last spring you may recall that easy child moved out of our home and into the home of her then boyfriend/Casper(HS sweetheart, ugh)'s parents home where they lived in separate bedrooms...her reasoning was that it was too stressful at our home - BS. They broke up on Good Friday and she immediately moved out of their home and back into ours. Within a couple of months she rebounded with what was the opposite of Casper. He was loosey-goosey, they had a lot of fun for the past year. She has been a dream this past year. Now, this new kid, the anti-casper, is a nice young man, head over heels in love with easy child (poor guy) but easy child kept it very casual and when he told her he loved her she reminded him that she didn't have the same feelings for him. They went out for just under a year and she broke up with him about 2 weeks ago.
Well, guess who she's been talking to and texting? And guess who she went out with last night? That's right, CASPER!!!! OMG, just shoot me. I opened my big mouth this morning and said something about being careful not to date too soon and rebound...especially with Casper. She of course became angry with me and I can live with that. BUT, if she goes back to Casper, I don't think I will be able to live with her. He brings out the worst in her and I am not the only one who says so - everyone in the family sees it. They love each other I'm sure, but they do not belong together. She is toxic to him just as he is toxic to her. Even H doesn't like the idea and he rarely gets involved in this relationship stuff. Of course, we both realize we can't stop her from seeing him, but that means laying down some strong boundaries in terms of dealing with her attitude in our home. And, to boot, easy child and I have a week in PR planned for August. I guess we will see how that pans out.
So, I am officially back in detachment 101 class. Thank you for having me.
Last spring you may recall that easy child moved out of our home and into the home of her then boyfriend/Casper(HS sweetheart, ugh)'s parents home where they lived in separate bedrooms...her reasoning was that it was too stressful at our home - BS. They broke up on Good Friday and she immediately moved out of their home and back into ours. Within a couple of months she rebounded with what was the opposite of Casper. He was loosey-goosey, they had a lot of fun for the past year. She has been a dream this past year. Now, this new kid, the anti-casper, is a nice young man, head over heels in love with easy child (poor guy) but easy child kept it very casual and when he told her he loved her she reminded him that she didn't have the same feelings for him. They went out for just under a year and she broke up with him about 2 weeks ago.
Well, guess who she's been talking to and texting? And guess who she went out with last night? That's right, CASPER!!!! OMG, just shoot me. I opened my big mouth this morning and said something about being careful not to date too soon and rebound...especially with Casper. She of course became angry with me and I can live with that. BUT, if she goes back to Casper, I don't think I will be able to live with her. He brings out the worst in her and I am not the only one who says so - everyone in the family sees it. They love each other I'm sure, but they do not belong together. She is toxic to him just as he is toxic to her. Even H doesn't like the idea and he rarely gets involved in this relationship stuff. Of course, we both realize we can't stop her from seeing him, but that means laying down some strong boundaries in terms of dealing with her attitude in our home. And, to boot, easy child and I have a week in PR planned for August. I guess we will see how that pans out.
So, I am officially back in detachment 101 class. Thank you for having me.