My 12 year old son is basically a typical kid. He's in 7th grade and is classified Learning Disability (LD). Today, his team went on a trip to see a holiday show. He was on the bus and the teacher told another boy to sit with him. My son tried to get up so he could have the aisle seat but the teacher made him move to the window. He then leaned his head against the window to the right side, closed his eyes and was "relaxing," in his own words. The kid in front of him apparently sat up, turned around and hit him in the head. My son was startled and flung out his left arm, which struck the boy next to him in the face and caused a nosebleed. He is a lefty so that arm is stronger. The school called and said he would be getting an OOS for 2 days because he punched a kid in the face. When the kids returned to school, the dean interviewed our son and called to relate a version more like the one my son gave. She said the other kids admitted his eyes were closed. The school feels he should have controlled his behavior and not flung his arm out! This is the same school that tried to suspend my oldest son 10 years ago because he kicked up at a boy who had him in a headlock on the floor after grabbing him from behind and knocking him down! The more I think about it, the angrier I get. How did the kid in front know my son's eyes were closed unless the kid next to him told him? Why was this kid on his knees facing backwards and not being stopped by a teacher? We have a meeting tomorrow at 9:30 AM. H and I are both lawyers and the principal is still a little scared about us because of what happened with difficult child when he was there. H taped the phone call with the dean this afternoon - our state allows taping if one side knows about it, we have taped ALL meetings with the schools since difficult child was in first grade. THus, if the school changes their story and makes our son the aggressor, we will go public to the school board (the member in charge of sped is one of our closest friends). I think my son should not be suspended at all, that the kid who hit him should be disciplined and have to write my son an apology letter. I also think more investigation should be done into the role of the kid who got hit. It he's truly not at fault, my son can write him an apology letter. I really try not to be a parent who is an apologist for their children's poor behavior but... Am I wrong here? or am I right? All point of view's greatly appreciated. Thanks.