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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 570908" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi there. I'm so sorry you are having a hard time. I have a few questions to ask you that will make it easier to give you support and advice. I'm not trying to be nosy (honest!). My first bit of serious advice, as an animal lover, is to rehome your animals. They are not safe and it's not fair to them to have to put up with your son's treatment of them. Ok, onto your son...</p><p></p><p>1. Did your son have a lot of chaos and different caregivers when he was infant/toddler? Was he hit or abused by biological dad? Did he have a lot of caregivers rather than just one? Was he neglected at any time?</p><p></p><p>2. Did your son stiffen in your arms as an infant and refuse to make eye contact? Did he meet his milestones on time? When you say he was aggressive before he was one, what did he do and what triggered it? Was bio. dad still there and what did bio. dad do about it? Did he hit him?</p><p></p><p>3. When did his stepfather come into his life? Did you have any boyfriends before him? Sometimes early chaos and many caregivers at an early age can give children problems when they get older. Attachment problems can be serious and hurting animals and playing with fire are two traits pointing to possible attachment issues, as is a lack of conscience.</p><p></p><p>4. Does your son have any obsessive interests? Is he sensitive to textures, certain foods, loud noise? Does he have any eccentric behaviors? Does he make odd noises in his throat or rock back and forth? Does he play well with his toys or does he take them apart, throw them, or line them up? How does he relate to his same age peers? Does he poop and pee inappropriately? Has he ever touched your stepson inappropriately?</p><p></p><p>5. Has he ever seen anyone for an evaluation? I strongly recommend a neuropsychologist evaluation, however, if he has attachment issues, that won't show up to the neuropsychologist. It WILL rule out other disorders though.</p><p></p><p>6. How does he do at school? </p><p></p><p>Is it possible your ex has antisocial traits? I think you first need to get him a total neuropsychologist evaluation, then go from there and possibly, depending on his history, consider that he could have attachment problems. The earlier you get a handle on this, the better the prognosis so please don't wait. How is your husband when he hurts his son? How is your marriage?</p><p></p><p>Good luck <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> Others will come alone.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 570908, member: 1550"] Hi there. I'm so sorry you are having a hard time. I have a few questions to ask you that will make it easier to give you support and advice. I'm not trying to be nosy (honest!). My first bit of serious advice, as an animal lover, is to rehome your animals. They are not safe and it's not fair to them to have to put up with your son's treatment of them. Ok, onto your son... 1. Did your son have a lot of chaos and different caregivers when he was infant/toddler? Was he hit or abused by biological dad? Did he have a lot of caregivers rather than just one? Was he neglected at any time? 2. Did your son stiffen in your arms as an infant and refuse to make eye contact? Did he meet his milestones on time? When you say he was aggressive before he was one, what did he do and what triggered it? Was bio. dad still there and what did bio. dad do about it? Did he hit him? 3. When did his stepfather come into his life? Did you have any boyfriends before him? Sometimes early chaos and many caregivers at an early age can give children problems when they get older. Attachment problems can be serious and hurting animals and playing with fire are two traits pointing to possible attachment issues, as is a lack of conscience. 4. Does your son have any obsessive interests? Is he sensitive to textures, certain foods, loud noise? Does he have any eccentric behaviors? Does he make odd noises in his throat or rock back and forth? Does he play well with his toys or does he take them apart, throw them, or line them up? How does he relate to his same age peers? Does he poop and pee inappropriately? Has he ever touched your stepson inappropriately? 5. Has he ever seen anyone for an evaluation? I strongly recommend a neuropsychologist evaluation, however, if he has attachment issues, that won't show up to the neuropsychologist. It WILL rule out other disorders though. 6. How does he do at school? Is it possible your ex has antisocial traits? I think you first need to get him a total neuropsychologist evaluation, then go from there and possibly, depending on his history, consider that he could have attachment problems. The earlier you get a handle on this, the better the prognosis so please don't wait. How is your husband when he hurts his son? How is your marriage? Good luck :) Others will come alone. [/QUOTE]
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