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<blockquote data-quote="pepperidge" data-source="post: 223150" data-attributes="member: 2322"><p>HI Smallworld,</p><p></p><p>We're in a somewhat similar situation with my 14 yr old. Maybe it is partly teenage thing which compounds all the mood disorder things.</p><p></p><p>We tried both of my kids on wellbutrin--didn't do much of anything. I am sure at some point you have, but have you tried a very small dose of stimulants in recent time? I see he has tics, which may rule that out. But a very small dose of stimulant (we've had lots of luck with 5-7.5 mg of Adderall) seems to brighten my son's mood (Lamictal really addressed the depression), and make him function at an all around higher social level. I am not sure he has classic ADHD, but I think it still helps his motivation. </p><p></p><p></p><p>As for school, I think there isn't much you can do at this point. I am beyond frustrated, because I see my son's chance for a regular diploma slipping away. The good news about my son--and it sounds like yours as well--is that he sounds like he is beginning to advocate for himself. The bad news is that I am not sure academic achievement is a concern for him, but at least he is willing now to talk to the Special Education teachers about what he needs. </p><p></p><p>I have two suggestions. The first would be to consider letting him sleep in for his first class--doesn't the HS start at some ungodly hour? and seeing if you can arrange an after school resource period. The second would be to see if your school has any online course possibilities. My son has just shifted into an on-line math program (part of an on-line web charter school here) which he does in the resource room because he just didn't want to be in the regular math class (which was still remedial). He finds the much smaller environment of the resource room better-though am not sure it is for good reasons! I worry that they are not setting high enough standards. </p><p></p><p>Perhaps he could do geometry on line, and get credit, and maybe even do it at home if he found the computer program engaging enough. I know that that isolates him even further, but at this point if he can learn that way it may take some of the social stress off and at least get him through HS. </p><p></p><p> I am not sure there is much you can do about the social aspects, given the age he is at. Our psychiatrist is telling me that at some point one just has to stand back and let them make their peace with the world, as long as they in reasonable mental health. Needless to say, I am still in the fix it mode. But maybe my son is ultimately going to have to take responsibility and figure out what he is going to make of his life.</p><p></p><p>Hugs. Its hard to stand back and watch when one has advocated so tirelessly to get things that are supposed to help.</p><p>P.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="pepperidge, post: 223150, member: 2322"] HI Smallworld, We're in a somewhat similar situation with my 14 yr old. Maybe it is partly teenage thing which compounds all the mood disorder things. We tried both of my kids on wellbutrin--didn't do much of anything. I am sure at some point you have, but have you tried a very small dose of stimulants in recent time? I see he has tics, which may rule that out. But a very small dose of stimulant (we've had lots of luck with 5-7.5 mg of Adderall) seems to brighten my son's mood (Lamictal really addressed the depression), and make him function at an all around higher social level. I am not sure he has classic ADHD, but I think it still helps his motivation. As for school, I think there isn't much you can do at this point. I am beyond frustrated, because I see my son's chance for a regular diploma slipping away. The good news about my son--and it sounds like yours as well--is that he sounds like he is beginning to advocate for himself. The bad news is that I am not sure academic achievement is a concern for him, but at least he is willing now to talk to the Special Education teachers about what he needs. I have two suggestions. The first would be to consider letting him sleep in for his first class--doesn't the HS start at some ungodly hour? and seeing if you can arrange an after school resource period. The second would be to see if your school has any online course possibilities. My son has just shifted into an on-line math program (part of an on-line web charter school here) which he does in the resource room because he just didn't want to be in the regular math class (which was still remedial). He finds the much smaller environment of the resource room better-though am not sure it is for good reasons! I worry that they are not setting high enough standards. Perhaps he could do geometry on line, and get credit, and maybe even do it at home if he found the computer program engaging enough. I know that that isolates him even further, but at this point if he can learn that way it may take some of the social stress off and at least get him through HS. I am not sure there is much you can do about the social aspects, given the age he is at. Our psychiatrist is telling me that at some point one just has to stand back and let them make their peace with the world, as long as they in reasonable mental health. Needless to say, I am still in the fix it mode. But maybe my son is ultimately going to have to take responsibility and figure out what he is going to make of his life. Hugs. Its hard to stand back and watch when one has advocated so tirelessly to get things that are supposed to help. P. [/QUOTE]
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