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Need advice about kicking 18 year old out of our house, Help!
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 459279" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>My daughter was out of high school when we told her to go. Actually, now that I think of it, she was nineteen. She did graduate and even finished Cosmotology School. She was a very functional drug addict.</p><p></p><p>Daughter had an option that your son didn't have, however it was hard for her to make that decision. She called her super-straight arrow brother to rescue her and he agreed to take her in (this was out of state) but that if she broke one of his rules, she'd be out. She had to get a job, pay for her own foot and upkeep, and help clean the house, which he shared with a few roommates. She was given the basement to live and sleep in.</p><p></p><p> She did listen to his rules and being away from all of her friends without a car did wonders. She had to walk to and from work and was pretty isolated for about a year. Slowly she got her license back, advanced in her job (which was at a Subway...she became manager), saved some money, bought a car and met her boyfriend. But she was ready to give up the drugs. It was just easier for her to do it in a new neighborhood. And she also knew her brother was not softhearted and if she screwed up once, he'd show her the door and not feel any sympathy.</p><p></p><p>I can almost guarantee you that either your son or some of his friends are way beyond just using weed. Many people smoke pot and manage to avoid legal trouble. I'm not endorsing it, just saying that he's probably doing other stuff too...or at least some of his friends are. I feel strongly that tough love (such as the type her brother gave Daughter) is the only way to help a drug user decide to change.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 459279, member: 1550"] My daughter was out of high school when we told her to go. Actually, now that I think of it, she was nineteen. She did graduate and even finished Cosmotology School. She was a very functional drug addict. Daughter had an option that your son didn't have, however it was hard for her to make that decision. She called her super-straight arrow brother to rescue her and he agreed to take her in (this was out of state) but that if she broke one of his rules, she'd be out. She had to get a job, pay for her own foot and upkeep, and help clean the house, which he shared with a few roommates. She was given the basement to live and sleep in. She did listen to his rules and being away from all of her friends without a car did wonders. She had to walk to and from work and was pretty isolated for about a year. Slowly she got her license back, advanced in her job (which was at a Subway...she became manager), saved some money, bought a car and met her boyfriend. But she was ready to give up the drugs. It was just easier for her to do it in a new neighborhood. And she also knew her brother was not softhearted and if she screwed up once, he'd show her the door and not feel any sympathy. I can almost guarantee you that either your son or some of his friends are way beyond just using weed. Many people smoke pot and manage to avoid legal trouble. I'm not endorsing it, just saying that he's probably doing other stuff too...or at least some of his friends are. I feel strongly that tough love (such as the type her brother gave Daughter) is the only way to help a drug user decide to change. [/QUOTE]
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