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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 134662" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Susan, when you explain to your difficult child that things are or are not in his best interest, then it's still all about him.</p><p></p><p>Self-interest is clearly something your difficult child understands. So, when you demonstrate some self-interest of your own he will likely listen and hear your message loud and clear.</p><p></p><p>If you feel the need to explain anything, tell him that you are now looking out for yourself, and he is expected to look out for himself. </p><p></p><p>Daisy, BBK, Meow and Suz have given great advice.</p><p></p><p>I would suggest that you figure out what you need to say to your son, and rehearse it a thousand times until the words roll off your tongue. Take the list of detachment phrases and say each one out loud until they feel natural and comfortable in your mouth.</p><p></p><p>Remember this. Saying "no" is NOT being mean to your son. It's probably the best possible thing you can do for him. Also, it's probably the best possible thing you can do for yourself.</p><p></p><p>I don't remember who told me this, but it was good advice:</p><p>If you don't want people to treat you like a doormat, stop lying down on the floor.</p><p></p><p>People can only take advantage of you with your cooperation.</p><p></p><p>Be strong, Susan. You can do it.</p><p></p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 134662, member: 3907"] Susan, when you explain to your difficult child that things are or are not in his best interest, then it's still all about him. Self-interest is clearly something your difficult child understands. So, when you demonstrate some self-interest of your own he will likely listen and hear your message loud and clear. If you feel the need to explain anything, tell him that you are now looking out for yourself, and he is expected to look out for himself. Daisy, BBK, Meow and Suz have given great advice. I would suggest that you figure out what you need to say to your son, and rehearse it a thousand times until the words roll off your tongue. Take the list of detachment phrases and say each one out loud until they feel natural and comfortable in your mouth. Remember this. Saying "no" is NOT being mean to your son. It's probably the best possible thing you can do for him. Also, it's probably the best possible thing you can do for yourself. I don't remember who told me this, but it was good advice: If you don't want people to treat you like a doormat, stop lying down on the floor. People can only take advantage of you with your cooperation. Be strong, Susan. You can do it. Trinity [/QUOTE]
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