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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 618827" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>I like the second thing you wrote: We love you and will be here after you get your life back on track. </p><p></p><p>As you undoubtedly know, the first step is to stop the flow of money. Sometimes that is a very hard step to take because we are afraid for their physical welfare.</p><p></p><p>A second step might be to reduce all communication and all action to nearly nothing. Or absolutely nothing if you can. No response, no meetings, nothing. Silence speaks volumes. </p><p></p><p>Let time take its time. Something will change, without your help. It always does. </p><p></p><p>A third step is not to get in the middle of him and anybody else. No making plans with the girlfriend or anybody else. Their relationship is up to them. Or between him and his old or new friends. Their relationship is up to them.</p><p></p><p>If you can do these three things, even just for today, you can then rest, turn your attention back to your own life, do something nice for yourself, like read a book, take a nap, take a bubble bath. </p><p></p><p>If your mind starts up, write the three steps down on a piece of paper and tape it to your bathroom mirror and your refrigerator. When you get antsy, go, stand in front of it, and read it over and over.</p><p></p><p>Then, say the Serenity Prayer: God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. </p><p></p><p>I believe that God is here for all of us and for them. He loves them more than we do and only he can help them now.</p><p></p><p>Blessings and prayers to you today. I am glad you found this site and hope you feel the support and warmth here.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 618827, member: 17542"] I like the second thing you wrote: We love you and will be here after you get your life back on track. As you undoubtedly know, the first step is to stop the flow of money. Sometimes that is a very hard step to take because we are afraid for their physical welfare. A second step might be to reduce all communication and all action to nearly nothing. Or absolutely nothing if you can. No response, no meetings, nothing. Silence speaks volumes. Let time take its time. Something will change, without your help. It always does. A third step is not to get in the middle of him and anybody else. No making plans with the girlfriend or anybody else. Their relationship is up to them. Or between him and his old or new friends. Their relationship is up to them. If you can do these three things, even just for today, you can then rest, turn your attention back to your own life, do something nice for yourself, like read a book, take a nap, take a bubble bath. If your mind starts up, write the three steps down on a piece of paper and tape it to your bathroom mirror and your refrigerator. When you get antsy, go, stand in front of it, and read it over and over. Then, say the Serenity Prayer: God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. I believe that God is here for all of us and for them. He loves them more than we do and only he can help them now. Blessings and prayers to you today. I am glad you found this site and hope you feel the support and warmth here. [/QUOTE]
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