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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 618829" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>Seeking,</p><p>Child has given you good advice. Welcome to the forum...we are sorry you had to look for us, but glad, since you need us and we need you, that you found your way here. </p><p></p><p>I also like your proposed text response. Once you've said that by text, you don't need to answer anymore texts that don't fall in line with 'getting your life back on track'</p><p></p><p>I think it is OK to meet with him in a public place with your husband and let him know that things have changed and youwill not be giving him financial support, large or small. If you want you can come with the contact information for resources he can use..therapist, shelter, whatever. Or not. Sounds like with all the social workers in his life he can figure it out.</p><p></p><p>One important thing...you don't need to hop when he says hop. It sounds like you are already figuring it out. His txts don't require an instant response. 24 hour turnover is fine for those to which you choose to respond. You don't have to meet when he wants to meet, or answer the phone at inconvenient times or places...that is what voicemail is for. Move slowly. Child is right...he will come up with solutions on his own when you stop being a potential source of solutions.</p><p></p><p>Welcome, good luck, and keep posting.</p><p></p><p>(PS we aren't geniuses or licensed or certified either...and we all make PLENTY mistakes and do relentless soul searching..we just try to provide a reflection to you of what we see, filtlered through our own experience. I hope you find it a loving, thoughtful, helpful process. I have)</p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 618829, member: 17269"] Seeking, Child has given you good advice. Welcome to the forum...we are sorry you had to look for us, but glad, since you need us and we need you, that you found your way here. I also like your proposed text response. Once you've said that by text, you don't need to answer anymore texts that don't fall in line with 'getting your life back on track' I think it is OK to meet with him in a public place with your husband and let him know that things have changed and youwill not be giving him financial support, large or small. If you want you can come with the contact information for resources he can use..therapist, shelter, whatever. Or not. Sounds like with all the social workers in his life he can figure it out. One important thing...you don't need to hop when he says hop. It sounds like you are already figuring it out. His txts don't require an instant response. 24 hour turnover is fine for those to which you choose to respond. You don't have to meet when he wants to meet, or answer the phone at inconvenient times or places...that is what voicemail is for. Move slowly. Child is right...he will come up with solutions on his own when you stop being a potential source of solutions. Welcome, good luck, and keep posting. (PS we aren't geniuses or licensed or certified either...and we all make PLENTY mistakes and do relentless soul searching..we just try to provide a reflection to you of what we see, filtlered through our own experience. I hope you find it a loving, thoughtful, helpful process. I have) Echo [/QUOTE]
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