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<blockquote data-quote="SeekingStrength" data-source="post: 618858" data-attributes="member: 17635"><p>Thanks for all this advice. I read Child's response to husband as he was driving earlier today and we both were so relieved at the support. Very empowering and kind. Now, we are home and I found the other three (and will read the article. thanks, Recovering.) </p><p>Each of you said some things husband and I already know, but need to reinforce and each of you mentioned new thoughts, i.e. a 32 year old pays for his own haircut, lol. No kidding! husband and I had already decided an apology is definitely in order. I may wait for that, accept it and then let him know how it stands until he shows he has turned this around for himself. I have asked son twice in the last few months to contact his dad, rather than me. He has ignored that, so I think I will just wait until he respects my wishes.</p><p></p><p>We think there is definitely mental illness and have taken him to counselors in the past. Guess what, it never did a bit of good because he is smarter than all the therapists, he thinks.</p><p></p><p>His sister (who has nothing to do with him) is a psychological examiner. Her best "guess" is anti-social behavior disorder. Having read the criterion for that, it seems like a good fit.</p><p></p><p>A few weeks ago, husband and I watched a Dr. Phil show where there was a 24yo son with many of the same bizarre demands and poor choices. The step dad was refusing any more help; the mom was not so ready to dis-attach. Dr. Phil acted shocked that the step dad would feel this way. He polled the audience and most thought the step dad was wrong. husband and I looked at each other and said, "Dr. Phil just has no idea...." but, that did put a speck of distrust in my brain. (Am i an uncaring monster of a mom?)</p><p></p><p>Thanks again. husband and I appreciate the feedback. Hearing from folks who understand is golden to us. You may not be wise, but you certainly come across as such!</p><p></p><p>I will learn more about the acronyms and update my "personal info" later.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SeekingStrength, post: 618858, member: 17635"] Thanks for all this advice. I read Child's response to husband as he was driving earlier today and we both were so relieved at the support. Very empowering and kind. Now, we are home and I found the other three (and will read the article. thanks, Recovering.) Each of you said some things husband and I already know, but need to reinforce and each of you mentioned new thoughts, i.e. a 32 year old pays for his own haircut, lol. No kidding! husband and I had already decided an apology is definitely in order. I may wait for that, accept it and then let him know how it stands until he shows he has turned this around for himself. I have asked son twice in the last few months to contact his dad, rather than me. He has ignored that, so I think I will just wait until he respects my wishes. We think there is definitely mental illness and have taken him to counselors in the past. Guess what, it never did a bit of good because he is smarter than all the therapists, he thinks. His sister (who has nothing to do with him) is a psychological examiner. Her best "guess" is anti-social behavior disorder. Having read the criterion for that, it seems like a good fit. A few weeks ago, husband and I watched a Dr. Phil show where there was a 24yo son with many of the same bizarre demands and poor choices. The step dad was refusing any more help; the mom was not so ready to dis-attach. Dr. Phil acted shocked that the step dad would feel this way. He polled the audience and most thought the step dad was wrong. husband and I looked at each other and said, "Dr. Phil just has no idea...." but, that did put a speck of distrust in my brain. (Am i an uncaring monster of a mom?) Thanks again. husband and I appreciate the feedback. Hearing from folks who understand is golden to us. You may not be wise, but you certainly come across as such! I will learn more about the acronyms and update my "personal info" later. [/QUOTE]
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