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<blockquote data-quote="SeekingStrength" data-source="post: 619440" data-attributes="member: 17635"><p>Exactly, COM. You nailed my thoughts--almost verbatim what I have said to husband.</p><p></p><p>Another one of our CD family posted that her parents were taking her difficult child in. I thought, <em>Well, that won't happen here because my gfg32 was so hateful to my mom when she refused to <strong>lend</strong> him $1000 in December. </em>(lend emphasized for ridiculousness of the request)</p><p></p><p>Well, guess what. Mom emailed me last night. She is 83yo. My dad and brother will be so furious if she helps gfg32 again. Gfg32 called her and wants to fly back to our state this weekend....on her dime, of course. He has supposedly found a ticket for $128. He told her he had tried to sell plasma and fainted, he has a broken finger, he is filing for bankruptcy (!), I forget what else.</p><p></p><p>She told him he needed to quit his heathen ways, stop using mean words, start listening to her advice, etc. etc. She said, "He was so desperate, he made promises." Mom, mom. Of course he made promises. I pointed that out and that I hoped she made the contingencies so that he has to demonstrate he is doing those things before she sends help. (She won't). I reminded her that therapy is a contingency husband and I require. She would never require therapy for gfg32. She thinks she is all the therapy anybody needs, lol.</p><p></p><p>I sent her a loving email about detachment, enabling, manipulation. Told her I loved her and that husband and I are willing to help gfg32 get a leg up after he turns his life around, not before. That I do not want to see her manipulated AGAIN....and that husband and I will not be part of it.</p><p><em></em></p><p><em></em></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SeekingStrength, post: 619440, member: 17635"] Exactly, COM. You nailed my thoughts--almost verbatim what I have said to husband. Another one of our CD family posted that her parents were taking her difficult child in. I thought, [I]Well, that won't happen here because my gfg32 was so hateful to my mom when she refused to [B]lend[/B] him $1000 in December. [/I](lend emphasized for ridiculousness of the request) Well, guess what. Mom emailed me last night. She is 83yo. My dad and brother will be so furious if she helps gfg32 again. Gfg32 called her and wants to fly back to our state this weekend....on her dime, of course. He has supposedly found a ticket for $128. He told her he had tried to sell plasma and fainted, he has a broken finger, he is filing for bankruptcy (!), I forget what else. She told him he needed to quit his heathen ways, stop using mean words, start listening to her advice, etc. etc. She said, "He was so desperate, he made promises." Mom, mom. Of course he made promises. I pointed that out and that I hoped she made the contingencies so that he has to demonstrate he is doing those things before she sends help. (She won't). I reminded her that therapy is a contingency husband and I require. She would never require therapy for gfg32. She thinks she is all the therapy anybody needs, lol. I sent her a loving email about detachment, enabling, manipulation. Told her I loved her and that husband and I are willing to help gfg32 get a leg up after he turns his life around, not before. That I do not want to see her manipulated AGAIN....and that husband and I will not be part of it. [I] [/I] [/QUOTE]
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