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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 609998" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Has your son applied for SSI and food stamps? Is he eligible in any way for public assistance? You may already be aware of NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness, they provide lots of support for the parents, courses for parents and where I live, they offer help in getting the client on to SSI, getting jobs, housing, therapy, etc. They may be a source of support for both you and your son.</p><p></p><p>I think when our kids are older and have "issues" we have to find some kind of a middle ground where we feel good about the choices we make concerning them. There is no right or wrong. If you are bothered by the continuing phone calls and it is stressing you out, then it is necessary for you to find a way to curtail those. For most of us, we have to turn over all the rocks to help our kids before we can back away and feel good about that.</p><p></p><p>A father on our site, whose son presently lives with him while they are in the process of waiting for his son to get services, is considering getting a camper to place on the family property. The son may live there to keep the rest of the family out of the inevitable drama our difficult child's bring to us. Some parents pay for the adult child to stay in one of those cheap hotels where people can live long term. The YMCA sometimes has rooms. As previously mentioned, shelters are available. My daughter stayed in a tent on our back patio for a short time. Are there group homes he is eligible for?</p><p></p><p>Your sons transition to the next step is not your responsibility, however, as most of us here, you may decide to assist him in finding what that is. If you contact NAMI, they will offer YOU the support you need in order to be able to assist your son in healthy ways. </p><p></p><p>All of these decisions are difficult Payla, I hope you have a good support system while you travel through this. It can be so grueling on us. Especially how we have to continually decide how much we are willing to do and how much we must detach from............riding the line between helping and not enabling.........that alone is challenging and difficult.</p><p></p><p>*Thinking of you and sending warm wishes for peace.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 609998, member: 13542"] Has your son applied for SSI and food stamps? Is he eligible in any way for public assistance? You may already be aware of NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness, they provide lots of support for the parents, courses for parents and where I live, they offer help in getting the client on to SSI, getting jobs, housing, therapy, etc. They may be a source of support for both you and your son. I think when our kids are older and have "issues" we have to find some kind of a middle ground where we feel good about the choices we make concerning them. There is no right or wrong. If you are bothered by the continuing phone calls and it is stressing you out, then it is necessary for you to find a way to curtail those. For most of us, we have to turn over all the rocks to help our kids before we can back away and feel good about that. A father on our site, whose son presently lives with him while they are in the process of waiting for his son to get services, is considering getting a camper to place on the family property. The son may live there to keep the rest of the family out of the inevitable drama our difficult child's bring to us. Some parents pay for the adult child to stay in one of those cheap hotels where people can live long term. The YMCA sometimes has rooms. As previously mentioned, shelters are available. My daughter stayed in a tent on our back patio for a short time. Are there group homes he is eligible for? Your sons transition to the next step is not your responsibility, however, as most of us here, you may decide to assist him in finding what that is. If you contact NAMI, they will offer YOU the support you need in order to be able to assist your son in healthy ways. All of these decisions are difficult Payla, I hope you have a good support system while you travel through this. It can be so grueling on us. Especially how we have to continually decide how much we are willing to do and how much we must detach from............riding the line between helping and not enabling.........that alone is challenging and difficult. *Thinking of you and sending warm wishes for peace. [/QUOTE]
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