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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 311983" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>I would tell the friend to call the placing agency to complain about the foster mother. <em>Even if all of the things she were saying were true</em> a friend is not the one that she should be talking to. It's entirely inappropriate.</p><p></p><p>If Dude can't find someone to stay with for the next couple of weeks, I would tell him to protect himself from these vile people by having them search his room today with a witness and without prior notice to them. If he doesn't take anything out of the house, there is no law broken. If they stash something in his room, it's totally innocent and he can say "I have no idea of how that got there, please take it away." Then, every time he leaves the house he needs to clear it through a foster parent with at least one witness. I don't think it would be out of line for you to make up a sign in and sign out sheet that shows that he has emptied his pockets and let them search him and to shove it into their faces and say point blank "I know what you're up to. If you're so worried about Dude stealing, we both give you permission to search him each time he comes and goes, and expect you to follow through." This is not a reflection on Dude. It's a reflection on them not being trustworthy and their intentions being acknowledged. It will ensure that Dude's actions are being verified. </p><p></p><p>I don't think it would hurt for you to call his PO or whoever and let them know what you plan to do and why. Then watch them try to pull something. I know that Dude won't like it, but sometimes in order to show that you are the good guy, you have to hoover it up and prove it. It's do or die time.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 311983, member: 99"] I would tell the friend to call the placing agency to complain about the foster mother. [I]Even if all of the things she were saying were true[/I] a friend is not the one that she should be talking to. It's entirely inappropriate. If Dude can't find someone to stay with for the next couple of weeks, I would tell him to protect himself from these vile people by having them search his room today with a witness and without prior notice to them. If he doesn't take anything out of the house, there is no law broken. If they stash something in his room, it's totally innocent and he can say "I have no idea of how that got there, please take it away." Then, every time he leaves the house he needs to clear it through a foster parent with at least one witness. I don't think it would be out of line for you to make up a sign in and sign out sheet that shows that he has emptied his pockets and let them search him and to shove it into their faces and say point blank "I know what you're up to. If you're so worried about Dude stealing, we both give you permission to search him each time he comes and goes, and expect you to follow through." This is not a reflection on Dude. It's a reflection on them not being trustworthy and their intentions being acknowledged. It will ensure that Dude's actions are being verified. I don't think it would hurt for you to call his PO or whoever and let them know what you plan to do and why. Then watch them try to pull something. I know that Dude won't like it, but sometimes in order to show that you are the good guy, you have to hoover it up and prove it. It's do or die time. [/QUOTE]
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