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<blockquote data-quote="GuideMe" data-source="post: 638427" data-attributes="member: 18233"><p>Thank you so much RE. She doesn't do this stuff with anyone else but me. It is too easy to walk all over me unfortunately. I was always very easily bullied as a child and I guess it just leaked out into my adult years as well. I am too soft with anyone who is willing to cross boundaries. I feel like a failure because she wouldn't be in half the mess she is in now if she had to live with someone who could enforce rules. She actually does really well when she is not with me. I am not an easy person to live with at all. I do chase everyone away, that's one of the reasons why I don't have a significant other because I hate sharing my home, even my bed. I do not like to be bothered. However, I am very normal and pleasant when I am out of my home. I get along with people great, but if they live with me or get too extremely close, I turn into a different person. I need my space and really, that's not fair to your child. I deal with my demons behind closed doors, in my home and it's just not a good place for anyone to be. She has good reasons to be angry, but at the same time, she has no good reasons to act out , abuse me or tell me what to do. She takes it too far. I truly feel within my heart we will get along great and things will be a major turn around if we didn't have to live together. She gets away with way too much which gets her into a lot of trouble. It is NOT good for her. It's just NOT. It makes me cringe with how much she has gotten away with, leaves a lot of anger inside of me that through out her teenage years, she answered to no one and did what she wanted to do, while I suffered. I do not want to see her in a psychiatric hospital or a jail though. That is not some place I think she should be. There should be other options and there will be. When my lease is done, I am packing up and leaving and she can go wherever she needs to go. I gave her PLENTY of time, chances, anything and everything to get her life together so this way she would have her own place, be in college dorm or a roommate by this time in her life. She chose not to listen to me or take me seriously. She really thinks I am not leaving either when the lease is up. It's a shame because that's going to be a very hard reality for her and I am so sorry for it, I really am. It's going to break my heart.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="GuideMe, post: 638427, member: 18233"] Thank you so much RE. She doesn't do this stuff with anyone else but me. It is too easy to walk all over me unfortunately. I was always very easily bullied as a child and I guess it just leaked out into my adult years as well. I am too soft with anyone who is willing to cross boundaries. I feel like a failure because she wouldn't be in half the mess she is in now if she had to live with someone who could enforce rules. She actually does really well when she is not with me. I am not an easy person to live with at all. I do chase everyone away, that's one of the reasons why I don't have a significant other because I hate sharing my home, even my bed. I do not like to be bothered. However, I am very normal and pleasant when I am out of my home. I get along with people great, but if they live with me or get too extremely close, I turn into a different person. I need my space and really, that's not fair to your child. I deal with my demons behind closed doors, in my home and it's just not a good place for anyone to be. She has good reasons to be angry, but at the same time, she has no good reasons to act out , abuse me or tell me what to do. She takes it too far. I truly feel within my heart we will get along great and things will be a major turn around if we didn't have to live together. She gets away with way too much which gets her into a lot of trouble. It is NOT good for her. It's just NOT. It makes me cringe with how much she has gotten away with, leaves a lot of anger inside of me that through out her teenage years, she answered to no one and did what she wanted to do, while I suffered. I do not want to see her in a psychiatric hospital or a jail though. That is not some place I think she should be. There should be other options and there will be. When my lease is done, I am packing up and leaving and she can go wherever she needs to go. I gave her PLENTY of time, chances, anything and everything to get her life together so this way she would have her own place, be in college dorm or a roommate by this time in her life. She chose not to listen to me or take me seriously. She really thinks I am not leaving either when the lease is up. It's a shame because that's going to be a very hard reality for her and I am so sorry for it, I really am. It's going to break my heart. [/QUOTE]
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