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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 675423" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Hi Susie,</p><p>Here is an article I found interesting.....it talks of depression after heart attack or surgery.....</p><p></p><p><a href="http://www.heart.org/HEARTORG/GettingHealthy/StressManagement/HowDoesStressAffectYou/Depression-After-A-Cardiac-Event-or-Diagnosis_UCM_440444_Article.jsp#" target="_blank">http://www.heart.org/HEARTORG/GettingHealthy/StressManagement/HowDoesStressAffectYou/Depression-After-A-Cardiac-Event-or-Diagnosis_UCM_440444_Article.jsp#</a></p><p></p><p>Is your Dad still working?</p><p>If he is, it could be hard on his body, if not, this can make folks anxious and depressed as well. I hope your Dad is willing to go to the Doctors and check this out, some men can be stubborn, and refuse to look into anything.</p><p>Then, of course, there is not much you can do.</p><p> Very good advice.</p><p></p><p>My Dad had a series of health issues in his late 70's, a quiet man, he became even more quiet.</p><p>My Mom is ill with stage 4 lung cancer. She is stable for now, by the grace of God. She has changed, too, unable to take the stress of company for too long. She gets anxious when things are out of place. My lil sis has stayed with her more often than I. She lives a bit closer, so was Moms caretaker during chemo, and is able to visit more often. She has noticed Moms a bit more anxious about things that ordinarily, wouldn't bother her.</p><p>Mom is very routine oriented. Right down to how the lights should be turned off sequentially, at night. If, not done correctly, she starts sighing loudly. Mom used to be pretty patient, but age and illness, has changed her. I think it is because as she battled her illness, her world has become smaller being in her home most of the time, and that is just what can happen to some of our aging parents....I have to consider this when I speak with her on the phone and visit, she is changing.....</p><p></p><p>Maybe for your Dad, being home and recovering, this is what has happened. His world has become smaller, and he wants certain control.....or, company can make him anxious.</p><p></p><p>I can only imagine what is down the road for my hubs and I, we change so much as we age, unable to do the things we did before, arthritis and ailments affect the way people act and feel.</p><p></p><p>Hopefully, we age gracefully, but you know, that is just up to time and circumstance....</p><p></p><p>Have you seen the movie "Grumpy Old Men" ?</p><p></p><p>[MEDIA=youtube]0TRUnJ5JlYw[/MEDIA]</p><p></p><p>I think I will watch this with my adult kids.....it may be able to explain things for them.....hubs can get grumpy and short with words. He has never really been a "talker". </p><p>So, as he gets older, he is a bit "crustier". He refuses to see anyone about it, too.</p><p></p><p>So, maybe <em>I </em>will have to get some anxiety medications, or <em>some more wine</em>......</p><p></p><p>I hope you are able to help Mom and Dad. </p><p></p><p>It is true, though, it is up to them, how they want to address the issue.</p><p> </p><p>Perhaps when Mom vents to you and your sib, you can gently remind her there is help for the both of them.</p><p></p><p>Take care, Susie</p><p></p><p>(((HUGS)))</p><p>leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 675423, member: 19522"] Hi Susie, Here is an article I found interesting.....it talks of depression after heart attack or surgery..... [URL]http://www.heart.org/HEARTORG/GettingHealthy/StressManagement/HowDoesStressAffectYou/Depression-After-A-Cardiac-Event-or-Diagnosis_UCM_440444_Article.jsp#[/URL] Is your Dad still working? If he is, it could be hard on his body, if not, this can make folks anxious and depressed as well. I hope your Dad is willing to go to the Doctors and check this out, some men can be stubborn, and refuse to look into anything. Then, of course, there is not much you can do. Very good advice. My Dad had a series of health issues in his late 70's, a quiet man, he became even more quiet. My Mom is ill with stage 4 lung cancer. She is stable for now, by the grace of God. She has changed, too, unable to take the stress of company for too long. She gets anxious when things are out of place. My lil sis has stayed with her more often than I. She lives a bit closer, so was Moms caretaker during chemo, and is able to visit more often. She has noticed Moms a bit more anxious about things that ordinarily, wouldn't bother her. Mom is very routine oriented. Right down to how the lights should be turned off sequentially, at night. If, not done correctly, she starts sighing loudly. Mom used to be pretty patient, but age and illness, has changed her. I think it is because as she battled her illness, her world has become smaller being in her home most of the time, and that is just what can happen to some of our aging parents....I have to consider this when I speak with her on the phone and visit, she is changing..... Maybe for your Dad, being home and recovering, this is what has happened. His world has become smaller, and he wants certain control.....or, company can make him anxious. I can only imagine what is down the road for my hubs and I, we change so much as we age, unable to do the things we did before, arthritis and ailments affect the way people act and feel. Hopefully, we age gracefully, but you know, that is just up to time and circumstance.... Have you seen the movie "Grumpy Old Men" ? [MEDIA=youtube]0TRUnJ5JlYw[/MEDIA] I think I will watch this with my adult kids.....it may be able to explain things for them.....hubs can get grumpy and short with words. He has never really been a "talker". So, as he gets older, he is a bit "crustier". He refuses to see anyone about it, too. So, maybe [I]I [/I]will have to get some anxiety medications, or [I]some more wine[/I]...... I hope you are able to help Mom and Dad. It is true, though, it is up to them, how they want to address the issue. Perhaps when Mom vents to you and your sib, you can gently remind her there is help for the both of them. Take care, Susie (((HUGS))) leafy [/QUOTE]
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