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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 690164" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I agree an addict is an addict. Some drugs including prescription drugs are horrible</p><p></p><p>I would feel the need to protect younger children from any addict who just got out of rehab for one week and went right back to addict girlfriend. They would need to prove they were sober for longer.</p><p></p><p>CPS is a legitimate threat,if nothing else. I worried about that when daughter used and still lived at home. Not to mention we could all be arrested if addict has anything on him around us and is busted.</p><p></p><p>Unfortunately in my world which did include young children and I drug addict, I protected the innocent young ones over my daughter. She has never bern angry about this. She has a child herself now. She understands and doesn't allow tobacco in her house. That includes the other grandmother.</p><p></p><p>When people use drugs, others who love them are sometimes forced to chose between members of their own family if there are multiple kids. Or if the addict has a history of disregard for others and dangerous behavior. One week does not prove a person is safe and sober.</p><p></p><p>Who caused us to have to choose or to risk even worse possibilities? The adult who uses, be it a husband, a father, a brother,various cousins, a BFF or an adult child.</p><p></p><p>The family will survive this once the addiction is truly a past event in, say, a year. The adult son knows he messed up and will admit his part in this once he is clean and sober. If he wants to be a functional, safe part of the family (and there is no indication yet that he does) then he will quit. No, it isn't easy. The best things aren't easy. I do not think of this as a punishment. I see it as a safety issue with the younger kids. I wouldn't place them too close to a fire. I wouldn't take a close up and personal family vacation with younger kids and an addict, even my own kid. Too risky. My daughter who used meth once would NEVER let an addict near her baby. She has little sympathy for drug addicts, having been one who overcame it.</p><p></p><p>Obviously I am not really talking to you since you are not in this situation. I am mostly addressing WSM. My mind us also set. I am not seeing this as a ploy to change one another's minds. I will never be in such a situation again as my grown kids are not on drugs and I have no minor children.</p><p></p><p>Peace!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 690164, member: 1550"] I agree an addict is an addict. Some drugs including prescription drugs are horrible I would feel the need to protect younger children from any addict who just got out of rehab for one week and went right back to addict girlfriend. They would need to prove they were sober for longer. CPS is a legitimate threat,if nothing else. I worried about that when daughter used and still lived at home. Not to mention we could all be arrested if addict has anything on him around us and is busted. Unfortunately in my world which did include young children and I drug addict, I protected the innocent young ones over my daughter. She has never bern angry about this. She has a child herself now. She understands and doesn't allow tobacco in her house. That includes the other grandmother. When people use drugs, others who love them are sometimes forced to chose between members of their own family if there are multiple kids. Or if the addict has a history of disregard for others and dangerous behavior. One week does not prove a person is safe and sober. Who caused us to have to choose or to risk even worse possibilities? The adult who uses, be it a husband, a father, a brother,various cousins, a BFF or an adult child. The family will survive this once the addiction is truly a past event in, say, a year. The adult son knows he messed up and will admit his part in this once he is clean and sober. If he wants to be a functional, safe part of the family (and there is no indication yet that he does) then he will quit. No, it isn't easy. The best things aren't easy. I do not think of this as a punishment. I see it as a safety issue with the younger kids. I wouldn't place them too close to a fire. I wouldn't take a close up and personal family vacation with younger kids and an addict, even my own kid. Too risky. My daughter who used meth once would NEVER let an addict near her baby. She has little sympathy for drug addicts, having been one who overcame it. Obviously I am not really talking to you since you are not in this situation. I am mostly addressing WSM. My mind us also set. I am not seeing this as a ploy to change one another's minds. I will never be in such a situation again as my grown kids are not on drugs and I have no minor children. Peace!!! [/QUOTE]
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