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<blockquote data-quote="worried sick mother" data-source="post: 690414" data-attributes="member: 19069"><p>Well I have an update. I have read every response and appreciate all the support so much. I'll answer a few of the questions ask, I don't know how to quote on something, I only use this on my phone. My son has never caused any danger to our younger children, he lives in another town and has really avoided us. He has had some terrible things happen to him due to his choices but these terrible things were to him and he didn't bother us, it's more me be obsessed with what was going on with him, he has done a lot of bad things but not to us. I will share sometime in the future. </p><p> RN ask me if we like to have cocktails on vacation and how it would affect him and yes we do but he doesn't like drinking, he obviously preferred the hard core drugs but I May refrain from any cocktails which won't bother me at all, I don't think it will bother him for my husband to have drinks because he has always even at home. My husband just had a beer in front of him when he recently visited and it didn't seem to cause any issues. </p><p> We are both going on the trip!! My kids were not happy about me not going and my husband finally just said do whatever makes u happy so that's what I did. He's still being very cold and hateful to me though so he obviously resents it, he's even sleeping in a different bed. This may be a disaster but I'm sure praying it's not. My son will be leaving 2 days from vacation before we do. </p><p> My son has a doctor appointment the day before we leave to get his second Vivitrol injection, he's getting it a few days early because it's due while we are gone on the trip and I refused to let him go if he didn't get it. He has to be drug tested and it has to be negative or they will not give it to him. My mother is going to the appointment with him so I will know if he doesn't receive it or pass the drug test. </p><p> I wanted my son to go on this trip, I want us to have this time together as a family creating memories. I also won't have to worry about him while I'm there because I'll know he's safe. That will be a first in many years. I know he's an adult and I don't plan to take him on our vacations for the rest of our lives but this is a special vacation. If you guys want to know the truth, I'm afraid my son might not be alive next year, month, week or even tomorrow so I just want to cherish this time with him. I want this memory. I'm so very scared for what his future holds. This is for me, so I can enjoy not only him but the rest of my family together. </p><p> As far as my relationship with my husband goes, he is definitely the dominant one, everything is always his way, I used to fight for my rights but I'm so beat down by him and the situation with my son that I've pretty much just accepted it to keep peace. I also have a fear that if I didn't and we split up that my other children could end up like my son, not only would I have to deal with that alone but if I ever did remarry or have another partner that they would treat or feel about my children (even if they didn't do the things my son has done)the way my husband feels and treats my son. I do love my husband very much also. </p><p> I will update when we return and I sure hope and pray it's a good update.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="worried sick mother, post: 690414, member: 19069"] Well I have an update. I have read every response and appreciate all the support so much. I'll answer a few of the questions ask, I don't know how to quote on something, I only use this on my phone. My son has never caused any danger to our younger children, he lives in another town and has really avoided us. He has had some terrible things happen to him due to his choices but these terrible things were to him and he didn't bother us, it's more me be obsessed with what was going on with him, he has done a lot of bad things but not to us. I will share sometime in the future. RN ask me if we like to have cocktails on vacation and how it would affect him and yes we do but he doesn't like drinking, he obviously preferred the hard core drugs but I May refrain from any cocktails which won't bother me at all, I don't think it will bother him for my husband to have drinks because he has always even at home. My husband just had a beer in front of him when he recently visited and it didn't seem to cause any issues. We are both going on the trip!! My kids were not happy about me not going and my husband finally just said do whatever makes u happy so that's what I did. He's still being very cold and hateful to me though so he obviously resents it, he's even sleeping in a different bed. This may be a disaster but I'm sure praying it's not. My son will be leaving 2 days from vacation before we do. My son has a doctor appointment the day before we leave to get his second Vivitrol injection, he's getting it a few days early because it's due while we are gone on the trip and I refused to let him go if he didn't get it. He has to be drug tested and it has to be negative or they will not give it to him. My mother is going to the appointment with him so I will know if he doesn't receive it or pass the drug test. I wanted my son to go on this trip, I want us to have this time together as a family creating memories. I also won't have to worry about him while I'm there because I'll know he's safe. That will be a first in many years. I know he's an adult and I don't plan to take him on our vacations for the rest of our lives but this is a special vacation. If you guys want to know the truth, I'm afraid my son might not be alive next year, month, week or even tomorrow so I just want to cherish this time with him. I want this memory. I'm so very scared for what his future holds. This is for me, so I can enjoy not only him but the rest of my family together. As far as my relationship with my husband goes, he is definitely the dominant one, everything is always his way, I used to fight for my rights but I'm so beat down by him and the situation with my son that I've pretty much just accepted it to keep peace. I also have a fear that if I didn't and we split up that my other children could end up like my son, not only would I have to deal with that alone but if I ever did remarry or have another partner that they would treat or feel about my children (even if they didn't do the things my son has done)the way my husband feels and treats my son. I do love my husband very much also. I will update when we return and I sure hope and pray it's a good update. [/QUOTE]
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