Hi everyone I have posted here before but not in a while. This all started when my son was arrested for smoking pot about 2 years ago had always been a great kid until senior year everything changed. Honor student in high school doing ok in college until the last spring semester. At that time he told me he was depressed suicidal I took him to his primary care doctor who put him on Paxil son did not like that so he took him off and put him on Xanax pcp doctor said he had severe anxiety disorder he has also been seeing a counselor. I have noticed that last few weeks he has been very sleepy and not acting right. He told pcp he only smokes pot once in a while that the Xanax helps him However a few days ago everything changed he became suicidal again I called the police and they took him the psychiatric unit at our local hospital he spent three days there. This is the bad part he has been using herion the last year and very heavily the past three months I am shocked and so upset still am. He has refused inpatient treatment but said he will do the intensive outpatient treatment program which starts in a few days. He has been home a couple of days and I can see he is struggling he has not left the house so far. I am having so much trouble dealing with this I also see a counselor and will be going to Al-non meeting soon Is this program really going to help him? Also my husband and I are supposed to go on a cruise in about 3 weeks should we go? I have no family in the area and I am sure they would be shocked if they knew about this. I have a 25 year old son who just moved away for his job he is my great kid. My difficult child wants to go back to college he was only out a few days we made him borrow the tuition so he will be going to class and he has a part time work study. I am not sure this program is going to work and I am afraid of going on vacation he said he wants to stop but will he use when we are gone? And what if he would overdose when we are gone. Thanks for your advise in advance. I do read all the posts here and you are all such amazing strong people-not sure I am.