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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 662198" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>Granddaughter and grandson - twins. I honestly don't think I'm losing. I have a beautiful husband and a beautiful home and two dogs who love me. I work part time from home and I have friends and hobbies. Yes, I don't see my blood relatives, but other than my father hunting me down through my sister (who used private records in her workplace to find me) no one has ever said anything to me in the last 3+ years since we moved across country that has made me take to my bed and cry for days, or made me feel as though I had to justify my own self to them or myself.</p><p></p><p>Sure, I do stupid things, and not everyone gets me. But it's no longer the end of the world. Things are stressful from time to time, but I don't have to conform myself to anyone. No one is blackmailing me or blackballing me because I don't play that game anymore.</p><p></p><p>It dawned on me the other day that while I always knew that my dad believed that all of his daughters (daughters are different than sons) would go to hell for being sl-t$ (we weren't virgins when we married) I finally know in my heart that there's nothing wrong with it. I always felt that there was nothing wrong with it for other people, and thought the notion of "carnal sin" was absurd, but somehow deep inside I thought there was something wrong with me. Something in the the news caught my eye the other day and it hit me - there's nothing wrong with me, either. It only took me 40 years later, 14 years away from my parents and siblings, and 1 year after my dad died to know it in my heart.</p><p></p><p>I haven't lost a thing. The sooner I know that I have shed the rest of the mental chains that bind, the better. I've never met my grandchildren, so there's nothing to miss. I'm good with it. If they feel badly about it they can come to me, but I doubt that will ever happen. You can't miss something you never knew.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 662198, member: 99"] Granddaughter and grandson - twins. I honestly don't think I'm losing. I have a beautiful husband and a beautiful home and two dogs who love me. I work part time from home and I have friends and hobbies. Yes, I don't see my blood relatives, but other than my father hunting me down through my sister (who used private records in her workplace to find me) no one has ever said anything to me in the last 3+ years since we moved across country that has made me take to my bed and cry for days, or made me feel as though I had to justify my own self to them or myself. Sure, I do stupid things, and not everyone gets me. But it's no longer the end of the world. Things are stressful from time to time, but I don't have to conform myself to anyone. No one is blackmailing me or blackballing me because I don't play that game anymore. It dawned on me the other day that while I always knew that my dad believed that all of his daughters (daughters are different than sons) would go to hell for being sl-t$ (we weren't virgins when we married) I finally know in my heart that there's nothing wrong with it. I always felt that there was nothing wrong with it for other people, and thought the notion of "carnal sin" was absurd, but somehow deep inside I thought there was something wrong with me. Something in the the news caught my eye the other day and it hit me - there's nothing wrong with me, either. It only took me 40 years later, 14 years away from my parents and siblings, and 1 year after my dad died to know it in my heart. I haven't lost a thing. The sooner I know that I have shed the rest of the mental chains that bind, the better. I've never met my grandchildren, so there's nothing to miss. I'm good with it. If they feel badly about it they can come to me, but I doubt that will ever happen. You can't miss something you never knew. [/QUOTE]
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