Hi, It has been over 2 years since I had to get the restraining order on difficult child; he turned 22 May 15 also! He had been in touch with my oldest son but not for quite some time. My son text messages him but no replies from difficult child. I am worried and want to continue to try and reconcile, by inviting him to my therapy sessions,etc. or to at least have contact with my oldest. I am devastated by this; the other day I drove down the street where I last knew he was living at but couldn't find the house number, came back and white page searched it and there is such a number, guess I didn't see it. What was I going to do anyway, probably nothing, but..... I also sent an anonymous letter to that same address asking him to call his brother, no return address,etc. due to the restraining order. He won't "friend" my oldest on Facebook so I need to know how my son can try and contact him. We want him to get himself together and at least try and figure this out but I guess he feels he doesn't have a mother because I got the order of protection, but I had to; I had no choice. Anyway, I can't really live like this and need some suggestions. Oh, by the way, I have been diagnosed with stage 1 breast cancer, had surgery and will begin treatment soon. Why do we get so much to deal with???