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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 380337" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Maybe you could hold off on the class change and see if he'll adjust or continue to have difficulties. In the meantime, a proper FBA by a qualified person (not just a vice principal or regular school staff) and the other suggestions by LDM might be a real good idea. You do need the paper trail. My posts were meant to help in not getting caught up in their over-dramatizing and over-reacting to things, so you can remain calm and not end up over-punishing your child. But that paper trail is really important. And another thing- don't let them pull just anyone in to do the FBA. It is supposed to be someone who understands the disability- not a disciplinarian. I made that BIG mistake and caught it in enough time to prevent the worst but that's all- my son still ended up scr**ed over it. (Sorry- I just can't think of another term right now to describe it.) I waited way too long to stop assuming the sd was always right and start advocating for my son's rights, while still holding him accountable in a reasonable way.</p><p></p><p>Getting back to your immediate concerns- one approach that did seem to help resolve things in IEP meetings was when one party- either the sd or myself- felt very strongly about a method that might help my son but the other party wasn't convinced, we would agree to try that method for 1-2 weeks and see if difficult child continued to have problems. If he did, we didn't continue with it and would try the other person's idea. This might be a way to help you in an IEP meeting- you can request one and say since they aren't comfortable changing his class right now, you are willing to try this 1-2 more weeks if they will agree that after the end of that period he is still exhibiting difficulties and disrupting others' learning and the teacher's ability to teach, then they will agree to change him to a different class. They can hardly accuse you of being unreasonable that way and unless they have a better option for making sure everyone gets educated, they don't have much choice.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 380337, member: 3699"] Maybe you could hold off on the class change and see if he'll adjust or continue to have difficulties. In the meantime, a proper FBA by a qualified person (not just a vice principal or regular school staff) and the other suggestions by LDM might be a real good idea. You do need the paper trail. My posts were meant to help in not getting caught up in their over-dramatizing and over-reacting to things, so you can remain calm and not end up over-punishing your child. But that paper trail is really important. And another thing- don't let them pull just anyone in to do the FBA. It is supposed to be someone who understands the disability- not a disciplinarian. I made that BIG mistake and caught it in enough time to prevent the worst but that's all- my son still ended up scr**ed over it. (Sorry- I just can't think of another term right now to describe it.) I waited way too long to stop assuming the sd was always right and start advocating for my son's rights, while still holding him accountable in a reasonable way. Getting back to your immediate concerns- one approach that did seem to help resolve things in IEP meetings was when one party- either the sd or myself- felt very strongly about a method that might help my son but the other party wasn't convinced, we would agree to try that method for 1-2 weeks and see if difficult child continued to have problems. If he did, we didn't continue with it and would try the other person's idea. This might be a way to help you in an IEP meeting- you can request one and say since they aren't comfortable changing his class right now, you are willing to try this 1-2 more weeks if they will agree that after the end of that period he is still exhibiting difficulties and disrupting others' learning and the teacher's ability to teach, then they will agree to change him to a different class. They can hardly accuse you of being unreasonable that way and unless they have a better option for making sure everyone gets educated, they don't have much choice. [/QUOTE]
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