The disaster that prompted me to reach out to you wise mothers, resulted after I volunteered to enroll as a student in several online community college courses, to support my son to do so. WRONG. I did he work. He laid around my house up all night doing nothing for 3 days. I ended up hysterical. OK. My problem now is that he is still enrolled in several courses, and if he does not drop...they turn into F's. I have repeatedly asked (read begged) him to drop the courses. He said I could do it as he has no computer....he has my Tablet and is staying one block from the library (free computer). I feel as I if I got him into this mess, I set him up, by my enabling behaviors. After all, to whom is college important? Who is the one to whom being productive, focused and forward moving matters? Can I do this one last thing? Drop his classes for him (OK, for me)? I do not want to feel as if my bad behavior dug him in further? PS (I may not have the strength yet to do the right thing, but I need to hear the right thing.