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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 170463" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>I have no answers of how you get help. For me, it was threatening to disrupt the adoption -- not a route I would recommend. Stating you will give up your rights to your child might make someone sit up and take notice or, sadly, they might just take you up on your offer. The reality is that getting help for a child with emotional or mental health needs is difficult at the best of times. Add a child who is now involved in the juvenile justice (talk about an oxymoron!) system and gets to be almost impossible. Strangely, the best way to get help is usually through the judge. A good juvenile judge will look at all factors and will frequently recommend a good Residential Treatment Center (RTC) or even a wilderness program. I have found, however, that it is usually up to the parent to find and first suggest the appropriate program.</p><p> </p><p>From what you have said, it really does sound like they are setting your son up to fail. Their restrictions are difficult for an adult, let alone a child.</p><p> </p><p>As to bankruptcy, I would not recommend going that route. From what I know and understand, court costs and penalties are not forgiven, so you would still be responsible for all of those fees regardless and have a nasty mark against your credit in the process.</p><p> </p><p>I'm so sorry you are going through all of this. That the court is so out to punish makes little sense to me. It seems like the goal should be to help the child become a contributing member of society (one of the reasons why juvenile records are usually locked at 18) rather than making sure the child has no chance to learn the "right way" of doing things.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 170463, member: 3626"] I have no answers of how you get help. For me, it was threatening to disrupt the adoption -- not a route I would recommend. Stating you will give up your rights to your child might make someone sit up and take notice or, sadly, they might just take you up on your offer. The reality is that getting help for a child with emotional or mental health needs is difficult at the best of times. Add a child who is now involved in the juvenile justice (talk about an oxymoron!) system and gets to be almost impossible. Strangely, the best way to get help is usually through the judge. A good juvenile judge will look at all factors and will frequently recommend a good Residential Treatment Center (RTC) or even a wilderness program. I have found, however, that it is usually up to the parent to find and first suggest the appropriate program. From what you have said, it really does sound like they are setting your son up to fail. Their restrictions are difficult for an adult, let alone a child. As to bankruptcy, I would not recommend going that route. From what I know and understand, court costs and penalties are not forgiven, so you would still be responsible for all of those fees regardless and have a nasty mark against your credit in the process. I'm so sorry you are going through all of this. That the court is so out to punish makes little sense to me. It seems like the goal should be to help the child become a contributing member of society (one of the reasons why juvenile records are usually locked at 18) rather than making sure the child has no chance to learn the "right way" of doing things. [/QUOTE]
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