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Need help with ADHD stepson and my son (ages 7 and 6)
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 475753" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I have adopted many kids, one who was actually too dangerous to live in a family. Adopting an older child is a risk to your child.</p><p>My advice, as unwelcome as it probably is, is in my opinion realistic...break up with him before you and your child are destroyed. He is unlikely to get better. He was exposed to drugs which affects his brain and he has so many problems that you can't possibly expect boyfriend to fix them all. Why expose your son to somebody as damaged as he is? He may end up the brunt of abuse as years go by. </p><p>If you have to stay together, I'm on board with living in two seperate residences. And, good heavens, don't have a baby! This boy is likely to act out in a very cruel way to that baby!</p><p></p><p>Hugs and I wish I could be more optimistic. Just seen too much, I guess. A most likely has attachment disorder which is far more serious than ADHD/ODD. You may want to look it up. One of our adopted sons sexually abused the two younger kids and we didn't know about it because they were too afraid of him to tell us...he threatened to kill us if they did. I would not take that chance since you have a child of your own. It is not worth it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 475753, member: 1550"] I have adopted many kids, one who was actually too dangerous to live in a family. Adopting an older child is a risk to your child. My advice, as unwelcome as it probably is, is in my opinion realistic...break up with him before you and your child are destroyed. He is unlikely to get better. He was exposed to drugs which affects his brain and he has so many problems that you can't possibly expect boyfriend to fix them all. Why expose your son to somebody as damaged as he is? He may end up the brunt of abuse as years go by. If you have to stay together, I'm on board with living in two seperate residences. And, good heavens, don't have a baby! This boy is likely to act out in a very cruel way to that baby! Hugs and I wish I could be more optimistic. Just seen too much, I guess. A most likely has attachment disorder which is far more serious than ADHD/ODD. You may want to look it up. One of our adopted sons sexually abused the two younger kids and we didn't know about it because they were too afraid of him to tell us...he threatened to kill us if they did. I would not take that chance since you have a child of your own. It is not worth it. [/QUOTE]
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