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Need help with ADHD stepson and my son (ages 7 and 6)
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<blockquote data-quote="Liahona" data-source="post: 475761"><p>I can't respond to some of your questions as I haven't had experience with it. I can tell you what I do to keep everyone safe in my home. </p><p></p><p>My difficult child 1 has tried to kill most of his siblings. He has been through therapy since age 4. He also was in a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for a year. He got much better in the Residential Treatment Center (RTC). His behaviors are escalating again. </p><p></p><p>He is again on 24/7 supervision. Even with this I don't catch everything. We work on his relationship with his siblings in therapy and on my own. difficult child 1 spends a lot of time in his room because he isn't safe with the other kids. There are alarms on all the kids bedroom doors. His 3 year old sister was in therapy because she thought he was going to kill her. He tried to hit her with the piano bench. The therapist stopped the therapy after she stopped wetting the bed. I keep a phone in my pocket at all times. (difficult child 1 is why I started doing this, but there are other reasons I do it as well.) I also keep the keys in my pocket at all times. (He has locked me out of the house.) We don't have toy guns or swords or baseball bats. We censor what they watch to the point of ridiculousness. No tickling is allowed. We have a huge van so we can all go in one car. difficult child 1 sits up front and can't reach the other kids. There is an empty bench between him and the other kids. </p><p></p><p>The toll difficult children have on siblings is very hard. If there is any doubt about who did what difficult child 1 is blamed and put on more supervision. He has lost our trust. Eventually we find out that our suspicions were correct. Kids need to feel safe. Even if that means excluding the unsafe child. difficult child 1 is learning that siblings are a privilege and you have to be nice to them. </p><p></p><p>I hope your step-son isn't as affected as difficult child 1 is. He does sound like he could have Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). Sometimes I have wondered that about my difficult child 1. </p><p></p><p>Has your boyfriend had any testing done for A?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Liahona, post: 475761"] I can't respond to some of your questions as I haven't had experience with it. I can tell you what I do to keep everyone safe in my home. My difficult child 1 has tried to kill most of his siblings. He has been through therapy since age 4. He also was in a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for a year. He got much better in the Residential Treatment Center (RTC). His behaviors are escalating again. He is again on 24/7 supervision. Even with this I don't catch everything. We work on his relationship with his siblings in therapy and on my own. difficult child 1 spends a lot of time in his room because he isn't safe with the other kids. There are alarms on all the kids bedroom doors. His 3 year old sister was in therapy because she thought he was going to kill her. He tried to hit her with the piano bench. The therapist stopped the therapy after she stopped wetting the bed. I keep a phone in my pocket at all times. (difficult child 1 is why I started doing this, but there are other reasons I do it as well.) I also keep the keys in my pocket at all times. (He has locked me out of the house.) We don't have toy guns or swords or baseball bats. We censor what they watch to the point of ridiculousness. No tickling is allowed. We have a huge van so we can all go in one car. difficult child 1 sits up front and can't reach the other kids. There is an empty bench between him and the other kids. The toll difficult children have on siblings is very hard. If there is any doubt about who did what difficult child 1 is blamed and put on more supervision. He has lost our trust. Eventually we find out that our suspicions were correct. Kids need to feel safe. Even if that means excluding the unsafe child. difficult child 1 is learning that siblings are a privilege and you have to be nice to them. I hope your step-son isn't as affected as difficult child 1 is. He does sound like he could have Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). Sometimes I have wondered that about my difficult child 1. Has your boyfriend had any testing done for A? [/QUOTE]
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