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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 397342" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Pepper--</p><p> </p><p>We had similar issues in our home too!</p><p> </p><p>If difficult child was in a silly, crazy mood - watch out! Somebody was gonna get injured!</p><p> </p><p>We decided it was a safety issue. So we had a family meeting one day and we all talked about what happens when that "silliness" starts. Everyone was able to acknowledge that it leads to bad things.</p><p> </p><p>So (and I really directed the solution here) we decided that each time Mom or Dad heard the "silliness" starting up - we were going to stop whatever game was being played and take a break...no matter what.</p><p> </p><p>Well, easier said than done....</p><p> </p><p>The next time I heard difficult child begin amping up, I very calmly stepped in and told everyone that they need to go play separately for a few minutes. I had suggestions ready - video games, cards, play outside, etc.</p><p> </p><p>The other kids complied - but difficult child was very angry that I had interuppted the activity.</p><p> </p><p>And that was the pattern for a while - difficult child would begin amping up, I would re-direct and difficult child would get angry...</p><p> </p><p>But after a while (and I do mean a while!) difficult child began to be more accepting of this system.</p><p> </p><p>But the key for me was not to make everyone happy <em>in the moment</em> - remember, it was a safety issue? - but to disengage them when things start getting too amped up and out of control.</p><p> </p><p>And I think what you describe is really the same problem - it is a safety issue. Somebody is going to get hurt. And the key is to re-direct the activity before it gets really out of control. So when your "mommy-senses" start to tingle - time to step in.</p><p> </p><p>Good luck!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 397342, member: 6546"] Pepper-- We had similar issues in our home too! If difficult child was in a silly, crazy mood - watch out! Somebody was gonna get injured! We decided it was a safety issue. So we had a family meeting one day and we all talked about what happens when that "silliness" starts. Everyone was able to acknowledge that it leads to bad things. So (and I really directed the solution here) we decided that each time Mom or Dad heard the "silliness" starting up - we were going to stop whatever game was being played and take a break...no matter what. Well, easier said than done.... The next time I heard difficult child begin amping up, I very calmly stepped in and told everyone that they need to go play separately for a few minutes. I had suggestions ready - video games, cards, play outside, etc. The other kids complied - but difficult child was very angry that I had interuppted the activity. And that was the pattern for a while - difficult child would begin amping up, I would re-direct and difficult child would get angry... But after a while (and I do mean a while!) difficult child began to be more accepting of this system. But the key for me was not to make everyone happy [I]in the moment[/I] - remember, it was a safety issue? - but to disengage them when things start getting too amped up and out of control. And I think what you describe is really the same problem - it is a safety issue. Somebody is going to get hurt. And the key is to re-direct the activity before it gets really out of control. So when your "mommy-senses" start to tingle - time to step in. Good luck! [/QUOTE]
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