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My son is 14, currently being held in a hospital under a baker act. He does not want to come home, and I do not want him to come home. He threatened to kill me, and his younger brother (who is 4) in our sleep. He is currently taking medications as prescribed, attends counseling, and has an IEP in place at school. This episode came about Friday when I got home from work and asked him why he hadn't completed his chores ... flew off the handle and started punching walls/furniture. Took him to the ER and that's when he threatened to kill us - the pediatrician decided to baker act him.
I wish I could say that this is the first time, but sadly, he's been baker acted at least a dozen times over the last 8 years. He has always threatened to kill me, but this time he involved his brother and that scares me. It is just the three of us at home, he's starting to get bigger than me, and the fear that he once had about me is going away ... I am afraid of him (I try not to show him that) and I'm afraid that one of these days he will follow through with his threats.
I just attended a family counseling session where he told the counselor that if they sent him home, he will hurt me or his brother, or both. He was sent back to his room and the counselor informed me that she will not let him come home until something is resolved, but she recommended looking into residential treatment facilities. I've been googling since I got home, and sweet baby Jesus! I can't afford this!! It's my income alone, I'm barely making ends meet now and that's with the help of food stamps and my son's disability from SSI. I don't know what to do and a friend suggested that I should look into a foster home for him ... I don't know how that would help ... I would just fear that he was terrorizing some other family, and the guilt of that would be too much for me to take on.
We live in FL, but I am open to other states if anyone knows of a facility that would work for someone like him and is income-based (or even free). I looked in the sheriff youth ranches, but one of the requirements is that the child cannot be a danger to himself or others, and considering his lengthy background of baker acts, that's probably out of the question. I am desperate!! I feel as though I'm putting my youngest child in danger because I have no option for the oldest - I feel like I'm being torn between my two children and I'm feeling helpless!! I'm so sad!
I wish I could say that this is the first time, but sadly, he's been baker acted at least a dozen times over the last 8 years. He has always threatened to kill me, but this time he involved his brother and that scares me. It is just the three of us at home, he's starting to get bigger than me, and the fear that he once had about me is going away ... I am afraid of him (I try not to show him that) and I'm afraid that one of these days he will follow through with his threats.
I just attended a family counseling session where he told the counselor that if they sent him home, he will hurt me or his brother, or both. He was sent back to his room and the counselor informed me that she will not let him come home until something is resolved, but she recommended looking into residential treatment facilities. I've been googling since I got home, and sweet baby Jesus! I can't afford this!! It's my income alone, I'm barely making ends meet now and that's with the help of food stamps and my son's disability from SSI. I don't know what to do and a friend suggested that I should look into a foster home for him ... I don't know how that would help ... I would just fear that he was terrorizing some other family, and the guilt of that would be too much for me to take on.
We live in FL, but I am open to other states if anyone knows of a facility that would work for someone like him and is income-based (or even free). I looked in the sheriff youth ranches, but one of the requirements is that the child cannot be a danger to himself or others, and considering his lengthy background of baker acts, that's probably out of the question. I am desperate!! I feel as though I'm putting my youngest child in danger because I have no option for the oldest - I feel like I'm being torn between my two children and I'm feeling helpless!! I'm so sad!