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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 205854" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Well, having your husband on the same page is a big plus!</p><p>Maybe you could explain to your husband that getting a working diagnosis for your difficult child is important for teachers because it will help them with-tools to help your son. For example, if they know that loud noises or bright lights send him over the edge, they'll limit his exposure to those things (at least during tests! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> ). Many teachers have no clue what to do about kids who have issues other than not "getting" math or English. </p><p>Also, your son's diagnosis may warrant an entirely diff type of school with-diff teachers altogether, not through any fault of their own, but simply because they are trained in certain things.</p><p> </p><p>In reg to expressing thoughts and emotions ... Hmm ... sounds like you were very worried about other people's reactions and now your son may have the same problem, but for different reasons. He doesn't want to be punished (or sound stupid). It seems to be fear-based in your case, and could be part of his issue, too. In many ways you can sympathize with-him. But you still have to teach and help him figure out why he does things so he can learn to control the impulses that can get him into trouble. It's a long road and there's no single solution.</p><p> </p><p>One of the hardest things for us to learn, as parents, was that there were certain things our son would do over and over again no matter how often or how harshly he was punished. His drive to do whatever he wanted superseded any fear of punishment. That's been a huge piece of a puzzle for us and we are still working on it. </p><p>Sometimes I feel like I'm just banging my head against the wall, but I don't want to give up.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 205854, member: 3419"] Well, having your husband on the same page is a big plus! Maybe you could explain to your husband that getting a working diagnosis for your difficult child is important for teachers because it will help them with-tools to help your son. For example, if they know that loud noises or bright lights send him over the edge, they'll limit his exposure to those things (at least during tests! :) ). Many teachers have no clue what to do about kids who have issues other than not "getting" math or English. Also, your son's diagnosis may warrant an entirely diff type of school with-diff teachers altogether, not through any fault of their own, but simply because they are trained in certain things. In reg to expressing thoughts and emotions ... Hmm ... sounds like you were very worried about other people's reactions and now your son may have the same problem, but for different reasons. He doesn't want to be punished (or sound stupid). It seems to be fear-based in your case, and could be part of his issue, too. In many ways you can sympathize with-him. But you still have to teach and help him figure out why he does things so he can learn to control the impulses that can get him into trouble. It's a long road and there's no single solution. One of the hardest things for us to learn, as parents, was that there were certain things our son would do over and over again no matter how often or how harshly he was punished. His drive to do whatever he wanted superseded any fear of punishment. That's been a huge piece of a puzzle for us and we are still working on it. Sometimes I feel like I'm just banging my head against the wall, but I don't want to give up. [/QUOTE]
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