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<blockquote data-quote="Farmwife" data-source="post: 369787" data-attributes="member: 8617"><p>If it were my difficult child I would confront/ambush him and give him two choices. by the way he is a huge liar too.</p><p> </p><p> </p><p>1. Do a surprise home urine drug test, available at many drug stores and online. I would have it ready and waiting. if the test came back positive I would FORCE my difficult child into rehab. If he refused the test or rehab after a positive I would go to option 2.</p><p> </p><p>2. Gather the "evidence" prior to the confrontation and put it somehwere safe. Call the police and let them determine if it is illegal paraphenalia and what to do about it. Then you are off the hook for having it in your house and difficult child must face consequences. I would push some sort of legal action just to corner difficult child into the system for more help or a paper trail that would lead to a court order for help.</p><p> </p><p> </p><p>As a side, I would keep the evidence while waiting for drug test results just in case there was a change of heart.</p><p> </p><p>I would also lock my kid up like they were in prison and make sure the old friends were not allowed near my difficult child. I would look into alternative schools or whatever else I needed to. They can threaten to run away all they want but allowing them that control when drugs are involved will lead down a very dangerous path. I would rather risk being hated and yelled at to keep my kid sober. </p><p> </p><p>Smoking weed and drinking at a young age is one thing...doing any of the pills, powders or injectables at a young age is a league all of it's own. There are very very high odds it will be a life altering and damaging choice they may never see their way clear of. It's bad when an adult gets strung out but when a young person does there is rarely any turning back without major interventions.<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/felttip/sad-very.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":sad-very:" title="sad-very :sad-very:" data-shortname=":sad-very:" /></p><p> </p><p> </p><p>I partied a bit after I was 18 but had very strict rules about what I wouldn't do. My friends on the other hand did not, they started hard core and early. I have a lot of stories you don't want to know about when it comes to teens who party hardy and what becomes of them...<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> Knowing what I know as a former street rat you should be very very concerned NOW! </p><p> </p><p>The "scene" is not at all like it was in the 60's and 70's, trust me. I knew kids who died before 21. I know kids who have long term health issues from using. I know kids who ended up in prison. I know girls that went with any guy who had drugs, often much older men and a new one every week or so. These were kids from good families on the good side of town too. It started with one "friend" in a circle of the popular kids and they all went down like dominoes. I'm the only one out of a dozen or more who is functional as an adult today. I was also the only one who waited until 18 and all I did was smoke pot. The rest were on powder in high school...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Farmwife, post: 369787, member: 8617"] If it were my difficult child I would confront/ambush him and give him two choices. by the way he is a huge liar too. 1. Do a surprise home urine drug test, available at many drug stores and online. I would have it ready and waiting. if the test came back positive I would FORCE my difficult child into rehab. If he refused the test or rehab after a positive I would go to option 2. 2. Gather the "evidence" prior to the confrontation and put it somehwere safe. Call the police and let them determine if it is illegal paraphenalia and what to do about it. Then you are off the hook for having it in your house and difficult child must face consequences. I would push some sort of legal action just to corner difficult child into the system for more help or a paper trail that would lead to a court order for help. As a side, I would keep the evidence while waiting for drug test results just in case there was a change of heart. I would also lock my kid up like they were in prison and make sure the old friends were not allowed near my difficult child. I would look into alternative schools or whatever else I needed to. They can threaten to run away all they want but allowing them that control when drugs are involved will lead down a very dangerous path. I would rather risk being hated and yelled at to keep my kid sober. Smoking weed and drinking at a young age is one thing...doing any of the pills, powders or injectables at a young age is a league all of it's own. There are very very high odds it will be a life altering and damaging choice they may never see their way clear of. It's bad when an adult gets strung out but when a young person does there is rarely any turning back without major interventions.:sad-very: I partied a bit after I was 18 but had very strict rules about what I wouldn't do. My friends on the other hand did not, they started hard core and early. I have a lot of stories you don't want to know about when it comes to teens who party hardy and what becomes of them...:frowny: Knowing what I know as a former street rat you should be very very concerned NOW! The "scene" is not at all like it was in the 60's and 70's, trust me. I knew kids who died before 21. I know kids who have long term health issues from using. I know kids who ended up in prison. I know girls that went with any guy who had drugs, often much older men and a new one every week or so. These were kids from good families on the good side of town too. It started with one "friend" in a circle of the popular kids and they all went down like dominoes. I'm the only one out of a dozen or more who is functional as an adult today. I was also the only one who waited until 18 and all I did was smoke pot. The rest were on powder in high school... [/QUOTE]
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