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<blockquote data-quote="ctmom05" data-source="post: 165650" data-attributes="member: 2901"><p>Star,</p><p></p><p>A responsibility that goes along with working hard, is putting the paycheck where it needs to go. It is not always a "feel good" thing.</p><p></p><p>The fact of the matter is that obligations need to be met before $$ can be considered available for discretionary use, like going to the beach. Otherwise Dude is talking the talk and not walking the walk.</p><p></p><p>I can tell you have some guilt feelings about Dude not having been able to go on vacation when he was with you; who wouldn't? Don't give yourself the responsibility of making that up to him now, no one will learn anything positive from that.</p><p></p><p>If you want to provide money to him, give him work to do in exchange - make it a fair market value deal. That way you both are benefitting.</p><p></p><p>While it's a fine line, I wouldn't give him the chores to do if I had the slightest notion that he was going to use the funds for the beach trip BEFORE his probation obligation was taken care of.</p><p></p><p>This is kind of a learn now or learn later thing. I think each time the learning is put off 'till later it is like taking one step forward and more than one step backwards.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ctmom05, post: 165650, member: 2901"] Star, A responsibility that goes along with working hard, is putting the paycheck where it needs to go. It is not always a "feel good" thing. The fact of the matter is that obligations need to be met before $$ can be considered available for discretionary use, like going to the beach. Otherwise Dude is talking the talk and not walking the walk. I can tell you have some guilt feelings about Dude not having been able to go on vacation when he was with you; who wouldn't? Don't give yourself the responsibility of making that up to him now, no one will learn anything positive from that. If you want to provide money to him, give him work to do in exchange - make it a fair market value deal. That way you both are benefitting. While it's a fine line, I wouldn't give him the chores to do if I had the slightest notion that he was going to use the funds for the beach trip BEFORE his probation obligation was taken care of. This is kind of a learn now or learn later thing. I think each time the learning is put off 'till later it is like taking one step forward and more than one step backwards. [/QUOTE]
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