klmno
Active Member
You know, Mstang- there are times in my life when my head tells me all the reasons why I don;t need to make a certain decision (like try to raise this baby myself, or get these puppies when I am already trying to deal with being a single working mom- you know, those sorts of things), but in my heart, I KNOW what is the right decision for me. I'm not talking about the fly-by-night decisions that I made as a teenager or as a kid in my 20's, but the ones that I know are leading me down the only path I can see myself taking.
If this is how you and husband feel, then by all means, follow that. I just think you should think through the possibility that the kid could be a difficult child and would you still be as excited about this decision if it turned out that way? If I am struggling with a decision like this, I would either start looking into it and maybe what I learn would help me make a decision I was confident about- or, I would just wait a while, figuring that I do want this, I am just not ready or in a position to do it yet.
I think you have gotten some pretty good ideas- are you in a position to visit an orphanage? Can you and husband just take a vacation by yourselves this summer to discuss the things you both envision for your futures- all the things?
Just trying to help- you have my support with which ever decision you make!
If this is how you and husband feel, then by all means, follow that. I just think you should think through the possibility that the kid could be a difficult child and would you still be as excited about this decision if it turned out that way? If I am struggling with a decision like this, I would either start looking into it and maybe what I learn would help me make a decision I was confident about- or, I would just wait a while, figuring that I do want this, I am just not ready or in a position to do it yet.
I think you have gotten some pretty good ideas- are you in a position to visit an orphanage? Can you and husband just take a vacation by yourselves this summer to discuss the things you both envision for your futures- all the things?
Just trying to help- you have my support with which ever decision you make!