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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 153949" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Mustang, </p><p> </p><p>I didn't think your post came off as selfish or unselfish. IT DID come off to me that you're not willing to take on any more difficult child behaviors. </p><p> </p><p>-I very much get that. I have one and he doesn't live at home because - well honestly? I'd like to live to see 50. With him here my stress is so high that after having that stroke last fall (DUE TO difficult child BEHAVIORS) there is no way you could get me to raise another child. My easy child is gone - and my difficult child is here but some days I just think - not really. Know what I mean?? </p><p> </p><p>I had an odd thought maybe something to mull over. And no need to reply - but if you are looking for a child to take care of or adopt - why not foster? You can go through the classes that teach you, it pays, they are there from 1 night to whatever length you can handle. </p><p> </p><p>My other thought would be adoption of a Down Child or a Special needs child - I fell in love with a little Ukranian boy with no fingers, just 2 thumbs. I looked at him and wrote to the sisters at the orphanage - and I thought gosh this was so cool - and then I was hit with - how many plane fares, how much money etc....and it was all very black market to me. WE had thought about fostering - but after Dude? </p><p> </p><p>I can't type the language DF used despite a simple no that would have sufficed. </p><p> </p><p>I also know that you can go to the orphanages locally and talk with the owners/managers - and 'check' a kid out for a day - spoil them, buy them stuff, enjoy time with them - and take them back - why limit yourself to one kid in need? </p><p> </p><p>Of course you aren't going to get the total story on any kid from someone trying to place them. And there are probably scads of special needs kids that would love to have you for a MOM - but I'm talking physical needs. </p><p> </p><p>IF you are asking would I do it again with Dude? N.O. NO. There is no amount of love nor money that could get me to spend the next 12 years of my life in hell. Sign me - Scared straight. </p><p> </p><p>But......always an eye out for a kid in need. Hugs are free. </p><p> </p><p>Good luck </p><p>Star</p><p>oh and ps I was adopted and so was my sister - and I would venture a guess at this stage of the game if you asked my Mom should she have adopted my genius Aspie sister? Well, can't speak for her -but I would have voted NO.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 153949, member: 4964"] Mustang, I didn't think your post came off as selfish or unselfish. IT DID come off to me that you're not willing to take on any more difficult child behaviors. -I very much get that. I have one and he doesn't live at home because - well honestly? I'd like to live to see 50. With him here my stress is so high that after having that stroke last fall (DUE TO difficult child BEHAVIORS) there is no way you could get me to raise another child. My easy child is gone - and my difficult child is here but some days I just think - not really. Know what I mean?? I had an odd thought maybe something to mull over. And no need to reply - but if you are looking for a child to take care of or adopt - why not foster? You can go through the classes that teach you, it pays, they are there from 1 night to whatever length you can handle. My other thought would be adoption of a Down Child or a Special needs child - I fell in love with a little Ukranian boy with no fingers, just 2 thumbs. I looked at him and wrote to the sisters at the orphanage - and I thought gosh this was so cool - and then I was hit with - how many plane fares, how much money etc....and it was all very black market to me. WE had thought about fostering - but after Dude? I can't type the language DF used despite a simple no that would have sufficed. I also know that you can go to the orphanages locally and talk with the owners/managers - and 'check' a kid out for a day - spoil them, buy them stuff, enjoy time with them - and take them back - why limit yourself to one kid in need? Of course you aren't going to get the total story on any kid from someone trying to place them. And there are probably scads of special needs kids that would love to have you for a MOM - but I'm talking physical needs. IF you are asking would I do it again with Dude? N.O. NO. There is no amount of love nor money that could get me to spend the next 12 years of my life in hell. Sign me - Scared straight. But......always an eye out for a kid in need. Hugs are free. Good luck Star oh and ps I was adopted and so was my sister - and I would venture a guess at this stage of the game if you asked my Mom should she have adopted my genius Aspie sister? Well, can't speak for her -but I would have voted NO. [/QUOTE]
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