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<blockquote data-quote="Farmwife" data-source="post: 380562" data-attributes="member: 8617"><p>DO IT DO IT DO IT!!!</p><p> </p><p>Also, please check my response in your other thread so you can get a background on why I had to say do it in caps and triplicate. : )</p><p> </p><p>The expense is a big thing but that doesn't even come into play with my opinion.</p><p> </p><p>Her being alone isn't a bad thing, do not feel guilty. The staff and other kids will become her second family. The distance is close enough to visit her but let her have time to do what she needs.</p><p> </p><p>MOST importantly she has YOU in a tail spin. YOU need time to recover not just physically but emotionally. As much as you love her you will be no help to her unless you are stable too. YOU deserve the time to get the rest of your life in balance. I know it is scary but from personal experience with placing a family member in psychiatric. Is that it is a relief to know they are safe and in good hands. This is a good thing for her, you are over your head right now so the soonest and highest level intervention is a bird in the hand. Across the country at the expense of your marriage and personal life plus finances seems extreme.</p><p> </p><p>Plus, the fact that they will address all of her issues concurrently rather than addressing certain symptoms out of context sounds ideal. I don't think this is just an eating disorder and I think you may not as well.</p><p> </p><p>This hospital is offering a safe harbor and although scary you will feel so much better after a few good nights sleep and maybe even a dinner date with your husband where you VOW not to talk about difficult child. Sound too good to be true? Then that just proves it's time for you to take some time for you too. Rebuild a stable home for her to return to. You shouldn't have to choose between her or your husband.</p><p> </p><p>Besides, what's the worst that could happen, she get too much care vs. too little? Maybe it could buy time before you decide to commit to the huge across country idea. Make the decision rested. You could always move her later if this isn't what you had hoped for. Either way Monday is so darn close!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Farmwife, post: 380562, member: 8617"] DO IT DO IT DO IT!!! Also, please check my response in your other thread so you can get a background on why I had to say do it in caps and triplicate. : ) The expense is a big thing but that doesn't even come into play with my opinion. Her being alone isn't a bad thing, do not feel guilty. The staff and other kids will become her second family. The distance is close enough to visit her but let her have time to do what she needs. MOST importantly she has YOU in a tail spin. YOU need time to recover not just physically but emotionally. As much as you love her you will be no help to her unless you are stable too. YOU deserve the time to get the rest of your life in balance. I know it is scary but from personal experience with placing a family member in psychiatric. Is that it is a relief to know they are safe and in good hands. This is a good thing for her, you are over your head right now so the soonest and highest level intervention is a bird in the hand. Across the country at the expense of your marriage and personal life plus finances seems extreme. Plus, the fact that they will address all of her issues concurrently rather than addressing certain symptoms out of context sounds ideal. I don't think this is just an eating disorder and I think you may not as well. This hospital is offering a safe harbor and although scary you will feel so much better after a few good nights sleep and maybe even a dinner date with your husband where you VOW not to talk about difficult child. Sound too good to be true? Then that just proves it's time for you to take some time for you too. Rebuild a stable home for her to return to. You shouldn't have to choose between her or your husband. Besides, what's the worst that could happen, she get too much care vs. too little? Maybe it could buy time before you decide to commit to the huge across country idea. Make the decision rested. You could always move her later if this isn't what you had hoped for. Either way Monday is so darn close!! [/QUOTE]
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