Little background:
difficult child is 17 now and a senior in HS. (Can you believe it??)
She does not drive and only recently got her cell phone back (and I'm regretting the cell phone already....sigh...)
I work part-time about a mile from difficult child's school. We have made arrangements for difficult child to leave school and walk to my job each day.(And this is the south so weather is not an issue.) It takes her about 20 minutes to walk and then she sits with me for about 40 minutes at work and then we go home together. Sometimes her girlfriend J will give her a ride and that puts her at my job in about 5 minutes instead of 20. J is very nice and will often stay and chat a few minutes. This has been working just fine for almost two months.
Now all of a sudden - this is a problem.
difficult child can't seem to make it in 20 minutes any more. For some reason, she needs to get a ride from different guys and it takes twice as long for them to drive the one mile as it does for her to walk it. And there's always an explanation that doesn't make any sense: stuck in traffic, had to take a detour, had to wait around to figure out who could drive her, etc.
And difficult child seems unable to answer simple questions like: who was that driving you? Uhhhh....she doesn't know - but so-and-so texted that he would drive. Why does he drop you off in the back of the building instead of the front where everybody parks and comes in? Uhhhh....he doesn't want to drive allll the way to the front door - it's too far. What were you doing in the back of the parking lot? Uh....listening to music?
So obviously, difficult child is doing the wrong thing with people she shouldn't be hanging out with and she doesn't want me to see. I know this. She knows this.
The situation is beginning to interfere with my job. Instead of working, I am now constantly looking out the window, checking my phone, trying to see any sign of difficult child. And as the time gets later and later and she still doesn't arrive, I get stressed out and aggravated. I am also embarassed that she may be sitting in a car with some guy in the corner of the back parking lot doing who-knows-what.
I have already told her this needs to stop. She can come straight from school....but, of course, I have no actual, physical control of this.
I'm thinking that for my own sanity, I should just tell her to forget coming to my job. She should just go do whatever it is she is doing and have uh....."whoever" drive her home later, after I get home from work.
What do you think?
difficult child is 17 now and a senior in HS. (Can you believe it??)
She does not drive and only recently got her cell phone back (and I'm regretting the cell phone already....sigh...)
I work part-time about a mile from difficult child's school. We have made arrangements for difficult child to leave school and walk to my job each day.(And this is the south so weather is not an issue.) It takes her about 20 minutes to walk and then she sits with me for about 40 minutes at work and then we go home together. Sometimes her girlfriend J will give her a ride and that puts her at my job in about 5 minutes instead of 20. J is very nice and will often stay and chat a few minutes. This has been working just fine for almost two months.
Now all of a sudden - this is a problem.
difficult child can't seem to make it in 20 minutes any more. For some reason, she needs to get a ride from different guys and it takes twice as long for them to drive the one mile as it does for her to walk it. And there's always an explanation that doesn't make any sense: stuck in traffic, had to take a detour, had to wait around to figure out who could drive her, etc.
And difficult child seems unable to answer simple questions like: who was that driving you? Uhhhh....she doesn't know - but so-and-so texted that he would drive. Why does he drop you off in the back of the building instead of the front where everybody parks and comes in? Uhhhh....he doesn't want to drive allll the way to the front door - it's too far. What were you doing in the back of the parking lot? Uh....listening to music?
So obviously, difficult child is doing the wrong thing with people she shouldn't be hanging out with and she doesn't want me to see. I know this. She knows this.
The situation is beginning to interfere with my job. Instead of working, I am now constantly looking out the window, checking my phone, trying to see any sign of difficult child. And as the time gets later and later and she still doesn't arrive, I get stressed out and aggravated. I am also embarassed that she may be sitting in a car with some guy in the corner of the back parking lot doing who-knows-what.
I have already told her this needs to stop. She can come straight from school....but, of course, I have no actual, physical control of this.
I'm thinking that for my own sanity, I should just tell her to forget coming to my job. She should just go do whatever it is she is doing and have uh....."whoever" drive her home later, after I get home from work.
What do you think?