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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 521085" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Liability waivers haven't been an issue for us in a long time. Jess is unable to participate in sports and Tyler would rather have his eyeballs poked out iwth a sharp stick than be on a team for much of anything athletic. Horseback therapy is incredibly expensive here and there are no ways to reduce the fees and no insurance is accepted by the providers within 1.5 hrs of us. Until Jess is more stable and not falling every day or two, no one wants her near their horses. </p><p></p><p>As for who is in charge, by age 14 there are states in the US that will let the child keep parents out of medical and/or psychiatric records, esp psychiatric records (including psychiatrist visits where medications are rx'd!). It is also darn near impossible to get a 14yo who refuses to do something and is not motivated by the typical motivators and pcness to do anything. That is the age that Wiz became so violently out of control that we had to have him removed from our home. It simply is NOT POSSIBLE to get a 14yo of any healthy size to do much of anything, at least if that child is a difficult child. I think the only thing Wiz would not have balked at would be signing medical releases if our state was one iwth brain dead legislators who enabled 14yos to keep parents out of psychiatric and medical decisions. Wiz knew even at his worst that he had NO CLUE what medications did what and that I spent months researching medications and his problems and that I would listen and pay attention to his feelings on any specific medication or issue and then make the decision that was in his best interests. That is one of a very few things he was afraid to defy me on and for the life of me I am not sure why. But even now if I ask a question I get complete answers about medical stuff. </p><p></p><p>The sw watned to know who was in charge because she has NO CLUE and NO EXPERIENCE with teen boys esp difficult child ones. I would LOVE to hear her convince Wiz to do ANYTHING he had decided not to do for reasons like your difficult child 1 has regarding his Occupational Therapist (OT). Sadly for most tdocs, Wiz is FAST with comebacks and logical arguments and could convince Bugs Bunny that carrots were gross. Wiz would also see her as a challenge and take absolute delight and joy in wrapping her up in logical seeming arguments and questions that would result in Ms. SW arguing that he should not go to Occupational Therapist (OT). It would totally delight his entire week. </p><p></p><p>So if you can get her out of the way, do so. Keep her as logn as she might be useful in court, but then ditch her and find another way to handle things. </p><p></p><p>I really HATE that the Occupational Therapist (OT) messed things up the way she did. What about common sense and plain old courtesy is so foreign that she would change the way things were happening (that was WORKING) to focus on something totally different with no warning to you or difficult child? I would be terribly tempted to write a letter telling her just HOW she messed things up, and send it to her, her boss, and anyone involved in her practice and whatever board licenses/certifies her.</p><p></p><p>This sw has either never met with a difficult child or she is so new that she is pretty much useless for most issues that require common sense and actual thought. just in my opinion of course!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 521085, member: 1233"] Liability waivers haven't been an issue for us in a long time. Jess is unable to participate in sports and Tyler would rather have his eyeballs poked out iwth a sharp stick than be on a team for much of anything athletic. Horseback therapy is incredibly expensive here and there are no ways to reduce the fees and no insurance is accepted by the providers within 1.5 hrs of us. Until Jess is more stable and not falling every day or two, no one wants her near their horses. As for who is in charge, by age 14 there are states in the US that will let the child keep parents out of medical and/or psychiatric records, esp psychiatric records (including psychiatrist visits where medications are rx'd!). It is also darn near impossible to get a 14yo who refuses to do something and is not motivated by the typical motivators and pcness to do anything. That is the age that Wiz became so violently out of control that we had to have him removed from our home. It simply is NOT POSSIBLE to get a 14yo of any healthy size to do much of anything, at least if that child is a difficult child. I think the only thing Wiz would not have balked at would be signing medical releases if our state was one iwth brain dead legislators who enabled 14yos to keep parents out of psychiatric and medical decisions. Wiz knew even at his worst that he had NO CLUE what medications did what and that I spent months researching medications and his problems and that I would listen and pay attention to his feelings on any specific medication or issue and then make the decision that was in his best interests. That is one of a very few things he was afraid to defy me on and for the life of me I am not sure why. But even now if I ask a question I get complete answers about medical stuff. The sw watned to know who was in charge because she has NO CLUE and NO EXPERIENCE with teen boys esp difficult child ones. I would LOVE to hear her convince Wiz to do ANYTHING he had decided not to do for reasons like your difficult child 1 has regarding his Occupational Therapist (OT). Sadly for most tdocs, Wiz is FAST with comebacks and logical arguments and could convince Bugs Bunny that carrots were gross. Wiz would also see her as a challenge and take absolute delight and joy in wrapping her up in logical seeming arguments and questions that would result in Ms. SW arguing that he should not go to Occupational Therapist (OT). It would totally delight his entire week. So if you can get her out of the way, do so. Keep her as logn as she might be useful in court, but then ditch her and find another way to handle things. I really HATE that the Occupational Therapist (OT) messed things up the way she did. What about common sense and plain old courtesy is so foreign that she would change the way things were happening (that was WORKING) to focus on something totally different with no warning to you or difficult child? I would be terribly tempted to write a letter telling her just HOW she messed things up, and send it to her, her boss, and anyone involved in her practice and whatever board licenses/certifies her. This sw has either never met with a difficult child or she is so new that she is pretty much useless for most issues that require common sense and actual thought. just in my opinion of course! [/QUOTE]
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