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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 456260" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Lisa, do NOT go and feel bad for unloading on us!!! OMG, isn't THAT what we are here for? I am so sorry you are so scared. I really, really wish I was still living in Cincy and could drive to your house (hang the stupid mess - it CANNOT be worse than my house and I wouldn't care if it was!) and give you a great big hug.</p><p></p><p>If you are having that nagging feeling, do NOT let yourself write it off as your own fears. You are just too in tune with your family to do that. You get that feeling hwen something is wrong, not when you are scared/upset. It is what it is, period. As far as applying for medicaid/medicare/whatever, most of what you need will be the recent tax return, the latest couple of months of bank account activity, likely some info on the mortgage. the bank stuff can be gotten online even if husband has to sign a durable power of atty to you to let you go and get it. </p><p></p><p>PLEASE, get durable medical power of atty and healthcare power of atty/living iwll forms signed the next time you go to the hospital. They give you rights that being a spouse doesn't and you NEED those. I am sure the girls and your mom will help with gas to get to the hospital and food for you while you are ther.</p><p></p><p>Listen to me RIGHT NOW. <strong> YOU ARE GOING TO LET THE GIRLS AND TRAVIS AND YOUR MOTHER HELP YOU WITH WHATEVER THEY CAN AND WANT TO.</strong> This is the time that your pride is going to go and get stuffed. There is NO room for pride when the girls' and Travis' Dad is so sick. If you won't let them help you, won't turn to them, you will set them up for lifelong regrets that they couldn't even help you in this time when family needed to really pull together. This is NOT the time for you to dig your feet in over them helping with gas, cash, housecleaning or anything else they can and want to do. PERIOD. I watched my folks go through some of this and saw how it hurt them. Please do not hurt your kids that way. Yes, they are the kids and you are the parent, but you are all one big family unit and they need to know that you will turn to them as adults if it is needed.</p><p></p><p>The next important thing is YOUR health. This is NOT the time to do a lot of cleaning. You are going to need to spend a fair amt of time at the hospital and it is not going to be easy on you. In fact, even though the nurses are watching him and giving good care, he will fare better if a family member is there to speak to the docs, etc... So that needs to be a priority for you. I know how hard it is when the hospital is an hour or more away. The big hospitals here are all over an hour away, mostly 90 mins away and that is where they send most patients with major problems. It isn't easy but it IS more important for you to be there than for you to clean the house.</p><p></p><p>If the worst happens and people gather at your home? Give them each a dust rag and put them to work. Or tell the kids that you need them to go and to get the house ready for visitors while you are with husband. Spending time with him now is FAR more important than cleaning or than not borrowing money or taking charity. Get the kids to take you to the hospital or give you a tank or two of gas and spend this time with husband. If any of you has a tape recorder or voice recorder, take that with you and when husband is up to it get him to tell the stories of growing up and of his family into that recorder. This is IMPORTANT. It will be one of the best gifts you will have to share iwth your children and grandchildren and his siblings.</p><p></p><p>Sleep wehn you can, naps are important for you as stress is going to be super hard on your body with your health issues.</p><p></p><p>We are all here for you and love you and hope and pray that husband gets better and heals from this.</p><p></p><p>If possible, when husband is better and more ready to leave the hospital, get the docs to set you up with chantix for him or another stop smoking aid because otherwise it will be a stressor neither of you needs. Chantix does have a program to help those who cannot afford it - if the hospital doesn't know the programs to get you set up for this, let us know and one of us can help you with that info.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 456260, member: 1233"] Lisa, do NOT go and feel bad for unloading on us!!! OMG, isn't THAT what we are here for? I am so sorry you are so scared. I really, really wish I was still living in Cincy and could drive to your house (hang the stupid mess - it CANNOT be worse than my house and I wouldn't care if it was!) and give you a great big hug. If you are having that nagging feeling, do NOT let yourself write it off as your own fears. You are just too in tune with your family to do that. You get that feeling hwen something is wrong, not when you are scared/upset. It is what it is, period. As far as applying for medicaid/medicare/whatever, most of what you need will be the recent tax return, the latest couple of months of bank account activity, likely some info on the mortgage. the bank stuff can be gotten online even if husband has to sign a durable power of atty to you to let you go and get it. PLEASE, get durable medical power of atty and healthcare power of atty/living iwll forms signed the next time you go to the hospital. They give you rights that being a spouse doesn't and you NEED those. I am sure the girls and your mom will help with gas to get to the hospital and food for you while you are ther. Listen to me RIGHT NOW. [B] YOU ARE GOING TO LET THE GIRLS AND TRAVIS AND YOUR MOTHER HELP YOU WITH WHATEVER THEY CAN AND WANT TO.[/B] This is the time that your pride is going to go and get stuffed. There is NO room for pride when the girls' and Travis' Dad is so sick. If you won't let them help you, won't turn to them, you will set them up for lifelong regrets that they couldn't even help you in this time when family needed to really pull together. This is NOT the time for you to dig your feet in over them helping with gas, cash, housecleaning or anything else they can and want to do. PERIOD. I watched my folks go through some of this and saw how it hurt them. Please do not hurt your kids that way. Yes, they are the kids and you are the parent, but you are all one big family unit and they need to know that you will turn to them as adults if it is needed. The next important thing is YOUR health. This is NOT the time to do a lot of cleaning. You are going to need to spend a fair amt of time at the hospital and it is not going to be easy on you. In fact, even though the nurses are watching him and giving good care, he will fare better if a family member is there to speak to the docs, etc... So that needs to be a priority for you. I know how hard it is when the hospital is an hour or more away. The big hospitals here are all over an hour away, mostly 90 mins away and that is where they send most patients with major problems. It isn't easy but it IS more important for you to be there than for you to clean the house. If the worst happens and people gather at your home? Give them each a dust rag and put them to work. Or tell the kids that you need them to go and to get the house ready for visitors while you are with husband. Spending time with him now is FAR more important than cleaning or than not borrowing money or taking charity. Get the kids to take you to the hospital or give you a tank or two of gas and spend this time with husband. If any of you has a tape recorder or voice recorder, take that with you and when husband is up to it get him to tell the stories of growing up and of his family into that recorder. This is IMPORTANT. It will be one of the best gifts you will have to share iwth your children and grandchildren and his siblings. Sleep wehn you can, naps are important for you as stress is going to be super hard on your body with your health issues. We are all here for you and love you and hope and pray that husband gets better and heals from this. If possible, when husband is better and more ready to leave the hospital, get the docs to set you up with chantix for him or another stop smoking aid because otherwise it will be a stressor neither of you needs. Chantix does have a program to help those who cannot afford it - if the hospital doesn't know the programs to get you set up for this, let us know and one of us can help you with that info. [/QUOTE]
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