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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 653690" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>Cedar, I love your husband!</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>OK, now I want to BE your husband . Not that I want to be married to you, although I think you are fabulous, but I want to live in his skin and feel that way! YOu know what? I almost do. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Weary, </p><p></p><p>I had one reaction to this...don't wonder about that. Don't make it YOUR headspace that works on her access to rehab. Let it go. She isn't ready yet anyway, although she might dangle it at you. If she is ready, she will find a way.</p><p></p><p>We spent the equivalent of a private college education on residential therapy and rehab on our son. Then we were done. Since then he has been in detox or rehab a few times...he gets hospitalized through a crisis center, and they find a placement for him. They call and ask us to come in for meetings and we say "no thank you." Because it is his life to fix, through whatever routes are open to him. It is not impossible for him to do that, nor is it impossible for you Difficult Child to do that, even if you don't provide the support for rehab.</p><p></p><p>Let it go. It is hers to manage now. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I thought that when you first posted about his call..I thought....yeah right. There is always a world where Difficult Child and some user get together and concoct a story that sound good. There is also a world where the user really thinks he might help and tries to reengage you. In neither case should you engage. At all. If the helper is a real helper, good for them, let them make their choices. More likely they are as messed up as Difficult Child. and the whole project will burn itself out as long as you don't engage.</p><p></p><p>I used to get a call a month from one young woman or another eager to explain Difficult Child's special personness to me, or to tell me how I had hurt him, or to let me know how he was doing and how I should help...I don't take them any more. I delete them from my voice mail or facebook or whatever. They don't know what I know. I don't want to talk to them.</p><p></p><p>Good luck to you, Weary. You are in the thick of things. Keep posting, keep sharing, and we will share too.</p><p></p><p>We all wanna be Cedar's husband. This is my aspiration for today!!!</p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 653690, member: 17269"] Cedar, I love your husband! OK, now I want to BE your husband . Not that I want to be married to you, although I think you are fabulous, but I want to live in his skin and feel that way! YOu know what? I almost do. Weary, I had one reaction to this...don't wonder about that. Don't make it YOUR headspace that works on her access to rehab. Let it go. She isn't ready yet anyway, although she might dangle it at you. If she is ready, she will find a way. We spent the equivalent of a private college education on residential therapy and rehab on our son. Then we were done. Since then he has been in detox or rehab a few times...he gets hospitalized through a crisis center, and they find a placement for him. They call and ask us to come in for meetings and we say "no thank you." Because it is his life to fix, through whatever routes are open to him. It is not impossible for him to do that, nor is it impossible for you Difficult Child to do that, even if you don't provide the support for rehab. Let it go. It is hers to manage now. I thought that when you first posted about his call..I thought....yeah right. There is always a world where Difficult Child and some user get together and concoct a story that sound good. There is also a world where the user really thinks he might help and tries to reengage you. In neither case should you engage. At all. If the helper is a real helper, good for them, let them make their choices. More likely they are as messed up as Difficult Child. and the whole project will burn itself out as long as you don't engage. I used to get a call a month from one young woman or another eager to explain Difficult Child's special personness to me, or to tell me how I had hurt him, or to let me know how he was doing and how I should help...I don't take them any more. I delete them from my voice mail or facebook or whatever. They don't know what I know. I don't want to talk to them. Good luck to you, Weary. You are in the thick of things. Keep posting, keep sharing, and we will share too. We all wanna be Cedar's husband. This is my aspiration for today!!! Hugs, Echo [/QUOTE]
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