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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 376343" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Bean</p><p></p><p>I've been of the board for a bit and can't remember.........do you attend al-anon meetings? Do you think you could take your Mom to one even if you don't? Sometimes just listening to what others have gone through in similar situations is enough to help open the eyes to the truth. Especially if it comes from other people.</p><p></p><p>If that doesn't help.........your parents will just have to live and learn the hard way. It can take a while and can take a lot sometimes to get the idea. Some people never do. I know it's frustrating to know your parents are enabling her behavior......but that is their choice and there is little if anything you can do about it. Addiction especially can be difficult for the older generation to understand, not to mention the whole difficult child concept. My Mom had major issues with my eldest nephew (huge difficult child) and bent over backward to help him, certain he was just a victim of his environment and she could save him............. After 2 prison sentences..........she finally realized that while environment had played a part........he was as an adult making his own decisions. Now he's on his 3rd prison sentence and grandma is no longer wasting time or energy trying to save him. It only took several years. ugh</p><p></p><p>No great advice. I would try to let go of what I can't change and do what you think is the right thing concerning difficult child.........your parents will make their own way about it.</p><p></p><p>((hugs))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 376343, member: 84"] Bean I've been of the board for a bit and can't remember.........do you attend al-anon meetings? Do you think you could take your Mom to one even if you don't? Sometimes just listening to what others have gone through in similar situations is enough to help open the eyes to the truth. Especially if it comes from other people. If that doesn't help.........your parents will just have to live and learn the hard way. It can take a while and can take a lot sometimes to get the idea. Some people never do. I know it's frustrating to know your parents are enabling her behavior......but that is their choice and there is little if anything you can do about it. Addiction especially can be difficult for the older generation to understand, not to mention the whole difficult child concept. My Mom had major issues with my eldest nephew (huge difficult child) and bent over backward to help him, certain he was just a victim of his environment and she could save him............. After 2 prison sentences..........she finally realized that while environment had played a part........he was as an adult making his own decisions. Now he's on his 3rd prison sentence and grandma is no longer wasting time or energy trying to save him. It only took several years. ugh No great advice. I would try to let go of what I can't change and do what you think is the right thing concerning difficult child.........your parents will make their own way about it. ((hugs)) [/QUOTE]
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