Please help me brainstorm. My difficult child is in middle school (6th grade). We moved here last summer and so it's a new district for us. He had an IEP in the last district that was written for gifted studies. During the year as we saw him start to struggle, we met with the school psychologist and added his anxiety diagnosis to it for certain strategies to help him cope. They were terrible at follow through and I was not a knowledgeable advocate. I mean I called meetings, had testing done and fought for his rights (including taking a letter from his psychiatrist to the administration which informed them of the possible ramifications and impact of ignoring the IEP). But he suffered a lot in the process. We are in the new school. He doesn't have an IEP. But again, the gifted program wanted to test both twins because due to records. They tested a couple of weeks ago. My son has never had trouble with grades. He has trouble with executive functioning, anxiety and social skills. It's the anxiety the social skills that have been the biggest challenges for him in that he says what others only think or repeats things that have been said to him that he thought was funny but isn't to anyone else or is said in an inappropriate time. Anyway, I'm just trying to give some background. I met with all teachers at the beginning of the year actually before school started to ease anxiety. We went through the school, met teachers, figured out the locker, etc. I met the teachers alone too. I explained everything about the anxiety and EF stuff. I stressed that I felt I had let him drown before in that I expected him to have skills that he doesn't have and hasn't learned (even if everyone else has learned them...not matter, he hasn't). I told them how we were working on those skills and we parted with them assuring me that they had not intention of letting him drown either (almost seeming offended). Well here we are and as I said, my son has been tested for gifted studies again, has A's and B's and is failing Science. He has a straight F. I saw his grade was a C and he explained a couple of things that really had to do with- classroom procedure (EF stuff) and I sent the teacher an email asking if we could talk. I didn't hear back. His progress though has been sent him and I see that due to his lab worksheets (done in class) not being handed in, he is failing. So, he goes in and they have lab almost daily (he loves it! It's his favorite! The teacher says he could teach the class, he's got so much knowledge) and they fill out sheets with results and cleanup and then turn sheets into the lab box or they get the teacher to check them off with-o putting them in the box. He says the teacher checks it so he doesn't turn it in. I have a conference set for Thursday morning early. They work as a team at this school, so I will meet with all of them. He's missing some work in every class (which he does but it doesn't get where it needs to be). I'm glad to talk to all of them. But here's the catch. I have been discussing homeschooling with him. I have been researching it extensively and I feel I can homeschool (there are many groups here..it's rich with 3 universities, etc.) and find ways to teach him the skills he's missing or teach coping skills to compensate and then he can back into public school if he wants to. I believe I can address the social issues too with different groups of homeschoolers. I am afraid of what this is doing to his self esteem. He's being bullied and becoming very attractive to others who don't feel like they fit in. I just don't see how the school can address his issues. Not that it is the school's responsibility but moreso the message of failing due to procedure (his work is 100%) justs throws him. He says "why try? No matter what I do, it's not right." I just don't feel like we can afford to stay on this particular route without expecting the same or worse. He learns differently (his F is about learning procedure). I am going to Boston this weekend for a conference put on by the Foundation for Children Behavioral Challenges. It's based on the Explosive Child and Dr. Greene and his partner are teaching CPS in breakouts as well as other professionals teaching other breakouts dealing with these issues. Then I have an appointment with- my son to see Dr. Greene at his office. I went ahead and scheduled this conference with- the teachers to gather more information for this meeting with- Dr. Greene so that I can lay it all out for help. I'm not trying to talk the teachers into or out of anything more trying to get their observations from the beginning of the year in the school setting. Thank you for continuing to read this..sorry for the length. Is there anything different you would be doing? Should I be doing something more? I plan on starting the homeschooling after the Christmas break. I'm afraid it's disruptive to just pull him out and I'm trying to make contacts and get all my ducks in a row (which is easier than I thought). Like I said, I don't think this has to be permanent. He loves learning. It is his thing. Any input? Any cover this base or that base? Even, hey you're crazy! It's all ok. I need to hear it. Thank you!!! P.S. And thank you for past time and help too. It's invaluable!