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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 113755" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Thank you all for the advice. It's so hard to be a state away from her. I've offered for her to come here for as long as she wanted, but she hasn't taken me up on it. I think she feels very responsible for her job and her store plus I"m sure boyfriend has something to do with it. I will keep telling her how proud I am of her and how she makes good choices. I have been pushing therapy too, but don't know how far I'll get. She thought it was useless when we tried it during her drug days. But the fact that she's even thinking about it may be a good thing. She HAS told me she seems to be attracted to "losers" and I reminded her that she meet current boyfriend almost right after she quit using drugs, she's in a different place now, and I'm sure some nice man would be honored to have her as a girlfriend. Or I told her there's nothing wrong with being "single" for a while. She knows all this, but is in turmoil now and it's driving her nuts. That scares me because of her past drug use. I call her every day to keep the lines of communication open. Even if she goes back to trying drugs, I want her to tell me. I can't guide her in any direction at all if she's afraid to tell me anything, even that...I know she hasn't gone there yet. Some kid at work invited her to a party to "get high" and she yelled at him and told me that "I TOLD him I'm not doing that anymore so why are you even asking me?" I wish I could do more. She's a lovely, intelligent young lady with many gifts that she doesn't see. She really needs a lot of reassurance. I could pound my ex over the head with a basesball bat. He's a very critical person and doesn't seem to appreciate how how it was for her to get straight.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 113755, member: 1550"] Thank you all for the advice. It's so hard to be a state away from her. I've offered for her to come here for as long as she wanted, but she hasn't taken me up on it. I think she feels very responsible for her job and her store plus I"m sure boyfriend has something to do with it. I will keep telling her how proud I am of her and how she makes good choices. I have been pushing therapy too, but don't know how far I'll get. She thought it was useless when we tried it during her drug days. But the fact that she's even thinking about it may be a good thing. She HAS told me she seems to be attracted to "losers" and I reminded her that she meet current boyfriend almost right after she quit using drugs, she's in a different place now, and I'm sure some nice man would be honored to have her as a girlfriend. Or I told her there's nothing wrong with being "single" for a while. She knows all this, but is in turmoil now and it's driving her nuts. That scares me because of her past drug use. I call her every day to keep the lines of communication open. Even if she goes back to trying drugs, I want her to tell me. I can't guide her in any direction at all if she's afraid to tell me anything, even that...I know she hasn't gone there yet. Some kid at work invited her to a party to "get high" and she yelled at him and told me that "I TOLD him I'm not doing that anymore so why are you even asking me?" I wish I could do more. She's a lovely, intelligent young lady with many gifts that she doesn't see. She really needs a lot of reassurance. I could pound my ex over the head with a basesball bat. He's a very critical person and doesn't seem to appreciate how how it was for her to get straight. [/QUOTE]
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