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<blockquote data-quote="Bunny" data-source="post: 490096"><p>Thank you, everyone, for your suggestions. I appreciate.</p><p></p><p>Why and I always the one who gets stuck caring for difficult child? Mostly because I'm the one he wants and everyone else just leaves me with him. I did tell husband last night that if he made me go on this trip HE was going to deal with everything difficult child, the good, the bad, and the ugly. </p><p></p><p>I did tell him at one point (this conversation has been going on for a good part of this year. Last night he just decided that we needed to get things planned) and I have told him to go and take the kids and his parents. I could use a vacation from everyone anyway, but then husband shoots back at me that that makes me part of the problem. If I refuse to go difficult child thinks that I'm not going because of him (true) and that perpetuates the resentment that he has towards me and easy child because I would take easy child in a heartbeat. He's a joy bring anywhere. But that's another story.</p><p></p><p>husband spoke to his parents last night to see if they wanted to go and mother in law told him that she had to check with father in law because they had a wedding that they were invited to one of the weekends that we would be away, but they have not decided if they are going to go, and father in law is supposed to have some picnic or something. So, they may not go, which leaves me with even less adult help.</p><p></p><p>It's hard to practice what scenario will set him off because I never can tell. And we go over things BEFORE we go and even once we get there, but it seems like once we get there he forgets everything that we talk about. He just can't get control of himself. I've dragged that child out of the parks kicking and screaming. Really, who gets taken out of Disney World kicking and screaming?</p><p></p><p>We do brings snacks. Lots of them. And bottled water. We bring a backpack (I make husband carry it) that has snacks that both of the kids like (I make sure I have two of everything and if one eats his apple sauce or peanut butter crackers, then they can't have the one that I brought for the other. This was one can't say that I didn't bring a snack that the other one got). </p><p></p><p>I like the idea of looking through the maps. Maybe I can do that. I'm not sure if I can get maps of the parks before we get there, but I can get them when we get there and I can spread it out and show difficult child the things that we want to do. One of the things that difficult child always seems to want to do is something that is clear on the other side of the park. I always tell him that we will definately do what he wants to do when we get to that part of the park, but he wants to do it RIGHT NOW! Maybe if I show in the park on the map he will be able to see the section. That might not be something that he can visualize. That's a great idea.</p><p></p><p>Thanks. I appreciate the help. I just so do not want to go. I was supposed to call the time share place today to make the reservations, but I told husband that I'm not doing it. If he wants to take the vacation so badly I feel like making him make the reservations. Childish, I know, but I'm angry and hurt that he refuses to see how I feel about this. It's no vacation for me because I still have the kids to deal with. At least he gets week off from work. When does a stay at home mom get a vacation? The only vacations I have ever truly enjoyed were ones that my kids were not on.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Bunny, post: 490096"] Thank you, everyone, for your suggestions. I appreciate. Why and I always the one who gets stuck caring for difficult child? Mostly because I'm the one he wants and everyone else just leaves me with him. I did tell husband last night that if he made me go on this trip HE was going to deal with everything difficult child, the good, the bad, and the ugly. I did tell him at one point (this conversation has been going on for a good part of this year. Last night he just decided that we needed to get things planned) and I have told him to go and take the kids and his parents. I could use a vacation from everyone anyway, but then husband shoots back at me that that makes me part of the problem. If I refuse to go difficult child thinks that I'm not going because of him (true) and that perpetuates the resentment that he has towards me and easy child because I would take easy child in a heartbeat. He's a joy bring anywhere. But that's another story. husband spoke to his parents last night to see if they wanted to go and mother in law told him that she had to check with father in law because they had a wedding that they were invited to one of the weekends that we would be away, but they have not decided if they are going to go, and father in law is supposed to have some picnic or something. So, they may not go, which leaves me with even less adult help. It's hard to practice what scenario will set him off because I never can tell. And we go over things BEFORE we go and even once we get there, but it seems like once we get there he forgets everything that we talk about. He just can't get control of himself. I've dragged that child out of the parks kicking and screaming. Really, who gets taken out of Disney World kicking and screaming? We do brings snacks. Lots of them. And bottled water. We bring a backpack (I make husband carry it) that has snacks that both of the kids like (I make sure I have two of everything and if one eats his apple sauce or peanut butter crackers, then they can't have the one that I brought for the other. This was one can't say that I didn't bring a snack that the other one got). I like the idea of looking through the maps. Maybe I can do that. I'm not sure if I can get maps of the parks before we get there, but I can get them when we get there and I can spread it out and show difficult child the things that we want to do. One of the things that difficult child always seems to want to do is something that is clear on the other side of the park. I always tell him that we will definately do what he wants to do when we get to that part of the park, but he wants to do it RIGHT NOW! Maybe if I show in the park on the map he will be able to see the section. That might not be something that he can visualize. That's a great idea. Thanks. I appreciate the help. I just so do not want to go. I was supposed to call the time share place today to make the reservations, but I told husband that I'm not doing it. If he wants to take the vacation so badly I feel like making him make the reservations. Childish, I know, but I'm angry and hurt that he refuses to see how I feel about this. It's no vacation for me because I still have the kids to deal with. At least he gets week off from work. When does a stay at home mom get a vacation? The only vacations I have ever truly enjoyed were ones that my kids were not on. [/QUOTE]
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