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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 147637" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>My flatmate & I were about the same age - 21 or 22. I'd known him for three years at that point, he'd been wearing skirts for all that time at least. He told me he'd begun wearing female clothing a couple of years before that. </p><p></p><p>The problem with the ADHD medications - sounds like rebound. This can be handled by changing the dosage (difficult child 3 gets rebound on lower doses of Concerta); changing the type of stimulant (difficult child 1 gets rebound on ritalin but not dex, a friend of his gets rebound on dex but not ritalin); or changing to slow release forms (which taper off more gradually at the end of the day).</p><p></p><p>The fantasy role play - as long as it remains fantasy it's OK, and even a fantasy game can be very intense and real-seeming, but as long as he can say, "yes I know it's not real, except maybe when I'm actually playing," then he's OK with it. It's when he really begins to believe, at all other times, that the Dark Knights are real and he has to watch himself every second, that you have to worry.</p><p></p><p>If he's so immersed in fantasy role play, it's not surprising that he dreams about it too. We had to ban difficult child 3 from some computer games for a while, because he got nightmares. As he got older and was more able to cope, we let him play them.</p><p></p><p>The social immaturity thing - common with difficult children. Quite common with ADHD and many other disorders. Just keep your expectations at HIS level rather than the calendar's.</p><p></p><p>Your son's game behaviour sounds a lot like difficult child 1 and his best friend.</p><p></p><p>Can you talk to your son about the underwear thing? Maybe suggest that you'd like to help him find other ways to indulge his desire for these things? Ask him for suggestions, ask him what he wants (no promises, just wanting to know, sort of thing). Op shops can be good places to shop for things - if anyone's curious about what you're buying, just tell them it's for a school project, or for a collage or something. Swatches. A school play.</p><p></p><p>This could then change his relationship to these items and the direction it then takes can give you more clues as to what is driving it. If it is purely sensory, his tension should ease a bit at this point which may also reduce his 'need' for these.</p><p></p><p>I hope this helps.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 147637, member: 1991"] My flatmate & I were about the same age - 21 or 22. I'd known him for three years at that point, he'd been wearing skirts for all that time at least. He told me he'd begun wearing female clothing a couple of years before that. The problem with the ADHD medications - sounds like rebound. This can be handled by changing the dosage (difficult child 3 gets rebound on lower doses of Concerta); changing the type of stimulant (difficult child 1 gets rebound on ritalin but not dex, a friend of his gets rebound on dex but not ritalin); or changing to slow release forms (which taper off more gradually at the end of the day). The fantasy role play - as long as it remains fantasy it's OK, and even a fantasy game can be very intense and real-seeming, but as long as he can say, "yes I know it's not real, except maybe when I'm actually playing," then he's OK with it. It's when he really begins to believe, at all other times, that the Dark Knights are real and he has to watch himself every second, that you have to worry. If he's so immersed in fantasy role play, it's not surprising that he dreams about it too. We had to ban difficult child 3 from some computer games for a while, because he got nightmares. As he got older and was more able to cope, we let him play them. The social immaturity thing - common with difficult children. Quite common with ADHD and many other disorders. Just keep your expectations at HIS level rather than the calendar's. Your son's game behaviour sounds a lot like difficult child 1 and his best friend. Can you talk to your son about the underwear thing? Maybe suggest that you'd like to help him find other ways to indulge his desire for these things? Ask him for suggestions, ask him what he wants (no promises, just wanting to know, sort of thing). Op shops can be good places to shop for things - if anyone's curious about what you're buying, just tell them it's for a school project, or for a collage or something. Swatches. A school play. This could then change his relationship to these items and the direction it then takes can give you more clues as to what is driving it. If it is purely sensory, his tension should ease a bit at this point which may also reduce his 'need' for these. I hope this helps. Marg [/QUOTE]
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