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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 232539" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>One thing I found that has helped thank you IMMENSELY is to give HIM as much control over his allergies/asthma and the treatment as possible. At first I would sit with him on my lap to do his treatments. this had to stop because I become delusional if I breathe in the albuterol, which is really a BAD thing for a mom to do. So he would pick his mask, a book to read or video to watch, I would set up the machine and he would sit across the room from me and do the treatment.</p><p></p><p>thank you has food allergies also. I was always afraid that if I didn't give HIM control, and knowledge, he would end up eating something because some adult gave it to him and he didn't think he could say no. So he learned ALL the things he was allergic to (and so did Jess and Brandon, simply because they were there) and when we shopped I had HIM pick out drinks and snacks that fit what he could have. </p><p></p><p>I think it really gave him confidence. He always had a supply of "safe" food at school in earlier years so if he forgot his lunch and couldn't have what they were serving he could still eat (in case I couldn't bring something up to him). He even started taking a lunch, but if school lunch sounded better that day, then he would just leave his lunch in his backpack and get school lunch. But he is more than capable of asking a waiter if there is pineapple or orange in something, or if they can substitute one item for another (he could do this by age 5 mostly because we encouraged him a LOT). </p><p></p><p>When he is having problems I often let him choose whether to do a steam treatment or just use the inhaler (steam works better but takes longer and involves sitting in a hot bathroom and he HATES being hot). Often he will propose a plan to do the inhaler, then if he still has problems, the steam, then the inhaler again. He also will come and ask if he should have mucinex or other prn type medications to help.</p><p></p><p>By giving HIM information, helping him plan, and letting him exercise as MUCH control over the issues as possible he is FAR more willing to try things than he used to be.</p><p></p><p>He also knows that we have a battery operated nebulizer so if we go somewhere and he is afraid the inhaler won't work (they are not as effective in HIS mind), then I take the battery unit and we can use that as an "in case". This really made him willing to go to the zoo more often. He is really triggered by animals, so the zoo was quite a challenge (and a main reason Grandpa bought the battery nebulizer - thank you was 4 and hadn't EVER been able to go to the zoo - the one time we tried we ended up in the ER). So that sort of gives him "wings" a lot of the time with the asthma.</p><p></p><p>thank you's school has a pulse ox machine, and he can go to the office to be checked anytime. Knowing he can go, and that they can show him if it really is a problem or not has made him more confident at school. they even let HIM set up the machine and turn it on to check the level, though he is supervised the whole way. </p><p></p><p>I think the more you can do to show Duckie that it will be OK if she has a problem during an activity, and that SHE can plan how to treat a problem that might come up will help her spread her wings.</p><p></p><p>As for not wanting to do physical things because she is not at the level of other kids, I find that sometimes a few private lessons are a great investment. We got a college kid from the Y to work 1 on 1 with thank you in basketball for an hour a week for a month and he got a better grasp of the game. It helped a LOT. </p><p></p><p>Wiz didn't want to swim because he couldn't have lessons when younger due to a serious sunburn and doctor advice to keep him out of the sun for 2 YEARS. I finally got a male lifeguard to give him some private lessons and he got up to speed with the other kids and was much more willing to go to the pool.</p><p></p><p>As much as the individual attention helped, having that "cool" older guy to teach who wasn't a family member really motivated. </p><p></p><p>Maybe for dance, have one of the older students work with Duckie privately for a month BEFORE the classes start and she will feel more confident with the group lessons?</p><p></p><p>We also SERIOUSLY stressed that trying, and having fun while doing it, were MUCH more important than being the best or winning and this helped. Our kids can be so hard on themselves, expecting to be perfect at everything even with-o lessons or learning. So working on having it be OK to not be perfect was important with all of my kids. </p><p></p><p>Anyway, this is some of what we have done. If I think of anything else I will let you know!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 232539, member: 1233"] One thing I found that has helped thank you IMMENSELY is to give HIM as much control over his allergies/asthma and the treatment as possible. At first I would sit with him on my lap to do his treatments. this had to stop because I become delusional if I breathe in the albuterol, which is really a BAD thing for a mom to do. So he would pick his mask, a book to read or video to watch, I would set up the machine and he would sit across the room from me and do the treatment. thank you has food allergies also. I was always afraid that if I didn't give HIM control, and knowledge, he would end up eating something because some adult gave it to him and he didn't think he could say no. So he learned ALL the things he was allergic to (and so did Jess and Brandon, simply because they were there) and when we shopped I had HIM pick out drinks and snacks that fit what he could have. I think it really gave him confidence. He always had a supply of "safe" food at school in earlier years so if he forgot his lunch and couldn't have what they were serving he could still eat (in case I couldn't bring something up to him). He even started taking a lunch, but if school lunch sounded better that day, then he would just leave his lunch in his backpack and get school lunch. But he is more than capable of asking a waiter if there is pineapple or orange in something, or if they can substitute one item for another (he could do this by age 5 mostly because we encouraged him a LOT). When he is having problems I often let him choose whether to do a steam treatment or just use the inhaler (steam works better but takes longer and involves sitting in a hot bathroom and he HATES being hot). Often he will propose a plan to do the inhaler, then if he still has problems, the steam, then the inhaler again. He also will come and ask if he should have mucinex or other prn type medications to help. By giving HIM information, helping him plan, and letting him exercise as MUCH control over the issues as possible he is FAR more willing to try things than he used to be. He also knows that we have a battery operated nebulizer so if we go somewhere and he is afraid the inhaler won't work (they are not as effective in HIS mind), then I take the battery unit and we can use that as an "in case". This really made him willing to go to the zoo more often. He is really triggered by animals, so the zoo was quite a challenge (and a main reason Grandpa bought the battery nebulizer - thank you was 4 and hadn't EVER been able to go to the zoo - the one time we tried we ended up in the ER). So that sort of gives him "wings" a lot of the time with the asthma. thank you's school has a pulse ox machine, and he can go to the office to be checked anytime. Knowing he can go, and that they can show him if it really is a problem or not has made him more confident at school. they even let HIM set up the machine and turn it on to check the level, though he is supervised the whole way. I think the more you can do to show Duckie that it will be OK if she has a problem during an activity, and that SHE can plan how to treat a problem that might come up will help her spread her wings. As for not wanting to do physical things because she is not at the level of other kids, I find that sometimes a few private lessons are a great investment. We got a college kid from the Y to work 1 on 1 with thank you in basketball for an hour a week for a month and he got a better grasp of the game. It helped a LOT. Wiz didn't want to swim because he couldn't have lessons when younger due to a serious sunburn and doctor advice to keep him out of the sun for 2 YEARS. I finally got a male lifeguard to give him some private lessons and he got up to speed with the other kids and was much more willing to go to the pool. As much as the individual attention helped, having that "cool" older guy to teach who wasn't a family member really motivated. Maybe for dance, have one of the older students work with Duckie privately for a month BEFORE the classes start and she will feel more confident with the group lessons? We also SERIOUSLY stressed that trying, and having fun while doing it, were MUCH more important than being the best or winning and this helped. Our kids can be so hard on themselves, expecting to be perfect at everything even with-o lessons or learning. So working on having it be OK to not be perfect was important with all of my kids. Anyway, this is some of what we have done. If I think of anything else I will let you know! [/QUOTE]
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