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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 171475" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Please. It's not your fault he turned out the way he did. All of us made mistakes. Nobody is perfect. Since most of us make a lot of parenting mistakes, yet most of us don't have kids in their twenties who are screwing up...I think you should stop thinking about it and continue to concentrate where the blame belongs...on him. Whether he has ADHD or anxiety or full blown bipolar or autism or anything else, he never needed to turn to drugs. He made the decision to take them. Other people with the same challenges often DON'T take drugs. People who have WORST challenges often don't take drugs. He is fully capable of getting clean and seeing a psychiatrist to find out if he has any psychiatric disorders that were missed as a child. You can't hold his hand in this. He has to do it.</p><p> in my opinion you look back too much and obsess over this adult child way too much. I would keep going to Al-Anon. Until this man straightens out his life, he'll just use anything you say to make you feel guilty so that you will cave in and do what he wants...which is giving him an easy time while he slowly kills himself. Tell your Al-Anon group how you feel, but I wouldn't say a word to him. Since my daughter went straight, we've had many talks, but the talks would have been useless while she was using. Take care and STAY STRONG.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 171475, member: 1550"] Please. It's not your fault he turned out the way he did. All of us made mistakes. Nobody is perfect. Since most of us make a lot of parenting mistakes, yet most of us don't have kids in their twenties who are screwing up...I think you should stop thinking about it and continue to concentrate where the blame belongs...on him. Whether he has ADHD or anxiety or full blown bipolar or autism or anything else, he never needed to turn to drugs. He made the decision to take them. Other people with the same challenges often DON'T take drugs. People who have WORST challenges often don't take drugs. He is fully capable of getting clean and seeing a psychiatrist to find out if he has any psychiatric disorders that were missed as a child. You can't hold his hand in this. He has to do it. in my opinion you look back too much and obsess over this adult child way too much. I would keep going to Al-Anon. Until this man straightens out his life, he'll just use anything you say to make you feel guilty so that you will cave in and do what he wants...which is giving him an easy time while he slowly kills himself. Tell your Al-Anon group how you feel, but I wouldn't say a word to him. Since my daughter went straight, we've had many talks, but the talks would have been useless while she was using. Take care and STAY STRONG. [/QUOTE]
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