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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 171509" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>Stands...</p><p></p><p>I have actually sat and wondered exactly if I could have had a part in my sons problems since he does carry a diagnosis of a personality disorder and most if not all of them list some sort of lack in parenting as a factor in the contributing causes. I fully accept I may be a link because of my own personality disorder that was never diagnosed in time...which was passed down because of my own childhood. And yet...my son doesnt blame me one iota for what is going on in his life. He hasnt blamed me for his lousy teen years with all the out of home placements or all the legal problems he has now. He may not want to accept outwardly that its all his doing but he knows inside its all on him. He knows I love him and I did my best. </p><p></p><p>I have yanked my kid off his bike when he was too impulsive and rode out in front of a car. Wouldnt most people? He scared the bejeebers out of a poor woman and I beat him senseless that day. I think he was six. Actually I dont think he pulled that stunt again. I would have gladly taken him blaming me over him dying. </p><p></p><p>I know I did so many things wrong. I am trying to do more things right this time around with the grands. I feel like I am getting a second chance. I also feel looking back I must not have done quite as much wrong as I thought I did because 2 out of 3 are pretty fine upstanding citizens. They all got the same parenting too. I didnt set out to mess up the youngest because I got bored. It was just in his genes. He ended up with mine...lol.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 171509, member: 1514"] Stands... I have actually sat and wondered exactly if I could have had a part in my sons problems since he does carry a diagnosis of a personality disorder and most if not all of them list some sort of lack in parenting as a factor in the contributing causes. I fully accept I may be a link because of my own personality disorder that was never diagnosed in time...which was passed down because of my own childhood. And yet...my son doesnt blame me one iota for what is going on in his life. He hasnt blamed me for his lousy teen years with all the out of home placements or all the legal problems he has now. He may not want to accept outwardly that its all his doing but he knows inside its all on him. He knows I love him and I did my best. I have yanked my kid off his bike when he was too impulsive and rode out in front of a car. Wouldnt most people? He scared the bejeebers out of a poor woman and I beat him senseless that day. I think he was six. Actually I dont think he pulled that stunt again. I would have gladly taken him blaming me over him dying. I know I did so many things wrong. I am trying to do more things right this time around with the grands. I feel like I am getting a second chance. I also feel looking back I must not have done quite as much wrong as I thought I did because 2 out of 3 are pretty fine upstanding citizens. They all got the same parenting too. I didnt set out to mess up the youngest because I got bored. It was just in his genes. He ended up with mine...lol. [/QUOTE]
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