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<blockquote data-quote="Suz" data-source="post: 171579" data-attributes="member: 29"><p>I've told this story before in PE but it bears repeating this morning.</p><p> </p><p>A couple of years ago Rob and I were at a coffee shop having breakfast. We were- finally- just starting to heal our relationship. He was in a good mood that morning so I asked him if there was something I did to make him behave the way he did when he lived at home. I asked him if there was anything else I could have done to make it easier for him.</p><p> </p><p>And he leaned back in his chair and smiled and said, "Mom, it was never you. It was ALL me. You didn't do anything wrong; I just wanted OUT."</p><p> </p><p>And he got in so much trouble during those years that he was successful.</p><p> </p><p>Later that morning Rob said quietly, "I didn't know how good I had it then."</p><p> </p><p>This conversation was the first time Rob had taken responsibility for anything. It was a major turning point for him...and for us. </p><p> </p><p>But he would never have had the opportunity to make that turn if he hadn't been forced to face his demons and come to terms with them.</p><p> </p><p>I am reminded of the Maya Angelou saying that is in my profile:</p><p> </p><p><em>We did the best we could with what we knew,</em></p><p><em>And when we knew more, we did better.</em></p><p> </p><p>Hold that thought, Susan. Don't take on what is his responsibility to face.</p><p> </p><p>Suz</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Suz, post: 171579, member: 29"] I've told this story before in PE but it bears repeating this morning. A couple of years ago Rob and I were at a coffee shop having breakfast. We were- finally- just starting to heal our relationship. He was in a good mood that morning so I asked him if there was something I did to make him behave the way he did when he lived at home. I asked him if there was anything else I could have done to make it easier for him. And he leaned back in his chair and smiled and said, "Mom, it was never you. It was ALL me. You didn't do anything wrong; I just wanted OUT." And he got in so much trouble during those years that he was successful. Later that morning Rob said quietly, "I didn't know how good I had it then." This conversation was the first time Rob had taken responsibility for anything. It was a major turning point for him...and for us. But he would never have had the opportunity to make that turn if he hadn't been forced to face his demons and come to terms with them. I am reminded of the Maya Angelou saying that is in my profile: [I]We did the best we could with what we knew,[/I] [I]And when we knew more, we did better.[/I] Hold that thought, Susan. Don't take on what is his responsibility to face. Suz [/QUOTE]
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