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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 407498" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>One only use of the "I would have done it this way" comments - evaluate, consider, if there is possible merit in the comment at any level, take it on board. But tell yourself - you made the call you did at that time and in that place, based on knowledge you had and choices you felt open to you. Never feel guilty for that. Even if, on consideration, you yourself feel you handled it badly - never accept any guilt. Because in the spur of the moment, you do what you have to do.</p><p></p><p>I've done a couple of TV quiz shows over the years and I've been stunned by some of the idiotic comments. One game show in particular, a "beat the buzzer" general knowledge quiz, had people saying to me, "How come you only knew the difficult ones?"</p><p>Well, idiot, because they were the only ones where I could get in ahead of my opponents... I knew the others questions, but was just not fast enough. And the really idiotic stuff, I have been guilty of myself - you watch a game show form the comfort of your living room, and you are yelling out the answers and wondering why the idiots are missing some really obvious stuff. But when you're actually there, in it - it is not as easy as it looks. I remember comparing notes with other contestants after our bit was filmed, the forehead-smacking going on was universal. "I can't believe I gave such a dumb answer - I KNEW I was wrong, but my tongue tripped." Even my mother smacked me over the back of the head (metaphorically) when I blew Final Jeopardy because I didn't know the answer and she felt I should have. </p><p></p><p>My point it - when you're in that moment and adrenalin is screaming at you saying, "Do something NOW!" you will not necessarily make the same choice you would have if you had time to relax, consider, have a cup of tea and maybe sleep on it. And you can't let those who DO have the luxury of time and distance, to hold you to ransom for your choices.</p><p></p><p>If they have advice, consider it as something to bear in mind for next time. Maybe. other than that - shrug it off. They are not you. They were not there.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 407498, member: 1991"] One only use of the "I would have done it this way" comments - evaluate, consider, if there is possible merit in the comment at any level, take it on board. But tell yourself - you made the call you did at that time and in that place, based on knowledge you had and choices you felt open to you. Never feel guilty for that. Even if, on consideration, you yourself feel you handled it badly - never accept any guilt. Because in the spur of the moment, you do what you have to do. I've done a couple of TV quiz shows over the years and I've been stunned by some of the idiotic comments. One game show in particular, a "beat the buzzer" general knowledge quiz, had people saying to me, "How come you only knew the difficult ones?" Well, idiot, because they were the only ones where I could get in ahead of my opponents... I knew the others questions, but was just not fast enough. And the really idiotic stuff, I have been guilty of myself - you watch a game show form the comfort of your living room, and you are yelling out the answers and wondering why the idiots are missing some really obvious stuff. But when you're actually there, in it - it is not as easy as it looks. I remember comparing notes with other contestants after our bit was filmed, the forehead-smacking going on was universal. "I can't believe I gave such a dumb answer - I KNEW I was wrong, but my tongue tripped." Even my mother smacked me over the back of the head (metaphorically) when I blew Final Jeopardy because I didn't know the answer and she felt I should have. My point it - when you're in that moment and adrenalin is screaming at you saying, "Do something NOW!" you will not necessarily make the same choice you would have if you had time to relax, consider, have a cup of tea and maybe sleep on it. And you can't let those who DO have the luxury of time and distance, to hold you to ransom for your choices. If they have advice, consider it as something to bear in mind for next time. Maybe. other than that - shrug it off. They are not you. They were not there. Marg [/QUOTE]
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